I had my son when I was 18. His father and I had only known each other a few months when I got pregnant, but we've somehow made it work for 21 years. I've been kinda like a single mom in most respects, though. His dad has very little to do with him, and nothing when it comes to guidance or disciplin. That has been coming back to bite ME lately, and I'm the one that's always been there. My son dropped out of school in the middle of his senior year, and has since refused to do ANYTHING. He's never gotten into drugs or drinking (thank God) but the kid does absolutely nothing with his time. He won't help around the house, won't look for work, won't even consider going back to school. His bedroom consists of his bed, dresser, clothes and a lamp. When he turned 18 I put the rest in storage and told him that he can have it back when he gets his own place. He has no money, no car, and doesn't seeem to want anything. Now he just goes to friends houses to play video games when he crawls out of bed around 2pm every day, then strolls in at all hours. I want to put him out, but my husband won't let me, he was the one that was supposed to teach this kid how to be a man, and he dropped that ball. He will not help me in anyway. He thinks that I need to back off and just wait for my son to be ready to go in his own time. When is THAT going to be? And while he's here, in MY house, eating my food, making messes (you should smell his room!) he's disrespectful, yells at me cusses at me... He follows no rules, he's never made curfue. I can't take it anymore. I'm ready to leave them both, they can have each other! BUT, if not for my son and the stress and problems that he causes, my marriage is fine I feel like it's our turn! We did right by him. I was two years younger than he is now when I had him! And I stepped up, gave him a good life, he had stability, consistency, responsibilities...I don't know why he's like this...!!?? All of his friends that are around the same age are of similar character. Don't work or go to school, poor hygiene, rude, none of them drive, and they all seem to be like 12 years old mentally. It's infuriating! I'm at a complete loss. Any advice?