My son at 23 was recently diagnosed with bipolar 2 even though he has had an ADHD and depression diagnoses for years which leads me to this. He has fallen apart. He is angry, especially at me for all of his earlier interventions with medications and therapists and will no longer see them. He self medicates with pot. He has fallen apart on his last 2 jobs so believes he cannot work. Expects my husband and I to support him. He is currently in an apartment which is very nice but he hates and we pay for due to my unwillingness to live with him anymore. Lesser of 2 evils. Verbally abuses us, especially me, when he is depressed or gets angry. We want to move out of state soon, but I am worried about leaving him behind . Since I dealt with his issues growing up, I am burnt out and trying to get my husband to deal with him, which he is trying to do but feels like my husband is not setting strict enough boundaries. I really want to move but my son says that we are abandoning him. I have depression myself, so am having an extremely difficult time detaching (I read the above list every day). I feel like I will never be at peace again. Any thoughts?