Gee, it's only been 9 weeks since he told my parents he was engaged, and 9 weeks since I left him a voicemail to see how he was doing since I hadn't heard from him since MAY, and 8 weeks since my MOM told me (she told him she'd give him a week to tell me himself, otherwise she was going to tell me) he was getting married, and 4 weeks since I sent him a congratulatory card to his P.O. box (since I have no idea what his current address or living situation is...) and he finally called tonight for a very brief chat. He said he figured Mom would tell me (what, are you too chicken to tell me yourself?). It's going to be "sometime" in May, in Dana Point, and he made a point of telling me there would be no kids -- adults only. husband turns to me and asks, "Do you think your mom can babysit that day so we can go to the wedding?" Part of me is hurt that he would exclude his one and only godson, difficult child 1. And part of me understands that he's an estranged sibling whom I really don't know anymore. It's his wedding and he does have a right to choose whom he invites. I just personally feel it's a really lousy decision to exclude his only niece and nephews. But then, he hasn't really been a part of my family or any family (except maybe his girlfriend's) for a very long time. I guess we all make our choices. I can choose to boycott the wedding, I suppose. I'll see how I feel this Spring... I had to laugh, though, at difficult child 2's comment tonight: I'll bet Uncle C ends up cancelling at the last minute since he always breaks up with everyone he dates! Yes, well, May is a long way off, isn't it? A lot can happen in the world between now and then. Okay, thanks for letting me vent.