lizabethann
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My daughter is 23 years old. She joined the Marine Corp right out of high school. She was an excellent student and a great daugher. She was at her permanent duty station and after dating a fellow marine after one month she was pregnant. They married about 3 months later and she has a wonderful daughter and is now divorced (final October 2012). Her marraige was horrible, he cheated on her from day one (no surprise there). He ended up being kicked out of the Corps due to a DUI in January 2012. She filed for divorce. She was deployed to Afghanistan in August and 2 weeks after arriving she met another fellow Marine. From the first time she told me about him I had a bad feeling. As her deployment continued, she became more serious, and I became more concerned. He said he wants to take care of her and her daughter and marry her. Her divorce was final in October and she returned home from deployment in December. We flew out to meet her and picked up her daughter for the arrival. This man she met was there, but promised to stay out of the way. He was also returning back to our home with us for a week and a half. Her return from deployment was rift with anger and just a horrible time. He has visited her from the East Coast to the West Coast twice and she went to his hometown for Easter 2013. He had called my husband 2 days before he went home (she is currently attending school about 2 hours from his hometown).. My husband did not respond to his call, as his message was "he wanted to ask him a question". We had an idea he wanted to ask for my daughters hand, and we could not say yes, so to avoid a problem, he ignored the call. When my daughter mentioned the fact he was waiting for a return call, my husband told my daughter any question he has he can ask through her. We really have a very bad feeling about this guy and, as I have access to her banking records, I can see where she is spending an incredible amount of moneyh on him when they are together. I feel he is an opportunist and is taking advantage of her, is controlling and feel he could harm her. She does not. He also is divorced, it was final in July 2012. I got a copy of his divorce paperwork and his wife was pregnant with another mans child at the time of their filing, but he had to pay her $400.00 a month alimony and keep her as half beneficiary on his life insurance until their divorce was final, 2 years from the date of their filing. That just gives me rise to the question of why he had to pay her alimony. Lots of other indicators, but the truth is, I just have a really bad feeling. My daughter is very angry with us and has told me she will not talk to me until my husband and I apologize to her and her "fiance". Right now her daughter is with her father (my daughter has permanent custody, but since she is attending a military school is not allowed to have dependents with her). I want to talk to my daughter about this, but I can't apologize because I feel there is nothing good to come to this. I need to know how to reach out to her, but keep my stance on my feelings about what she has done. She is a beautiful girl, but very insecure. I just have a really bad feeling, call it mothers intuition, but she won't listen. I just need help to try to get back into her life again. I'm miserable, but I know she is making a big mistake.