Hey TM,
I left you a little note on FB but wanted to touch base here as well. I know your mother was suffering and so I hope there is some comfort for the family knowing that has ended.
I pray that you and the family are surrounded with strength in the tough days to come. Wrap your arms around your family. My difficult child was about Duckie's age when my dad passed away and, while there was a limited understanding of death upon the loss of the first family member, he was a comfort to me in that he remembered some funny stories about my dad and felt comfortable sharing them with me. I will never forget that...don't feel you have to shield her. Kids manage during these times.
Also, a positive in the process of loosing a parent is the bonding of siblings or far-flung family. My sibs and I sat up late and talked for hours for those first few days. We shared stories that the others didn't know and were just there for each other. No matter the closeness with the lost parent, the strength from seeing yoru siblings as they were when you were young is something to cherish and remember.
I hope these next few days, the toughest in my opinion, pass smoothly. I know that you will be surrounded by friends and family who love you. You are such a giving and involved person, I know those who have benefited from your generous spirit will be there to support and offer strength.
Hugs,
Sharon