I posted on facebook about how from the worst life can throw at you sometimes can come a miracle. I think she just hugged me goodbye
. She's delightful. Her husband is a great guy and very much like my S/O, the guys were talking up a storm and have much in common. We met here, I put the cats in the spare room and S/O vacuumed as best he could for any stray cat hair. She said it wasn't bad on her allergies at all (whew!) and she will bring allergy medications in future visits so she doesn't go to a hotel.
They've just left for their hotel and we've set a 8a.m. meet time. Her and her husband will pick me and S/O up and we are all going out for breakfast then we will plan the day since she's planning to spend the day in town with us and perhaps even stay another night so she can meet easy child when she is back from her dads Sunday.
We talked openly about our pasts, how she learned the truth of her birth etc. Sadly she didn't have a mother who treated her right and they are estranged. My uncle, who was told to her was her father, always did things with her 2 sisters and did not take her (he had remarried and had more kids but did stay involved with her 2 sisters, just not her). Her mother and my uncle still deny things, although many years ago she heard her mother discussing the situation and how she was raped and that B (my sister) was not her husbands. Trust me too, we're so similar it's insane. Her 2 other sisters since have pressured their mother and my uncle and the truth was never admitted but even the 2 sisters know reading between the lines that the story is true. I broke down and asked my mother, who I don't speak to, about her recollections about B and her mother and my uncle. The story blew my mind that my mother withheld it from me all of these years. So we ARE sisters but since nobody wants to come out and say so, we decided tonight we will go this summer for DNA testing and set this straight once and for all, yet oddly there's no doubt for either of us, her 2 sisters have no doubt, the aunts on my fathers side have no doubt.
Our visit was wonderful. We got the uncomfortable talk of family things and regarding our father out of the way very quickly and just yakked our faces off about ourselves, our kids. I have a niece and a nephew and my niece has a 2 year old boy so I'm a great aunt! We found all kinds of medical things identical, she was diagnosis'ed with lupus and fibro etc but now they suspect it is MS and it sure sounds to us like it is MS. How strange! You could take my nose and switch with hers, nobody would know. Her eyes dance like mine do when she's joking or being silly. We have the same walk and the same strange crooked toe on the same foot. She laughs JUST like me which was a bit eery. She has the same openness and desire for close family, same values and wishes for her family as I do. Did I really never know her before tonight? It seems hardly possible.
She nearly crushed my back hugging me goodbye and we shared a bit of a happy cry. She told me I love you and I'm so happy you were open to this, we have an entire life to build with our children and her grandbaby and well, that set me crying. The guys stood watching us laughing, saying they are SUCH sisters, which cracked us up and stopped the crying jag. I sent her to her hotel with some herbal tea for before bed and my special pillow I use when I'm sore. Turns out its the SAME pillow and same color, that she needs when she's in pain and she was in obvious pain by the time she left. It was quite funny to see her face when I came to the room with the pillow and it was the same as hers.
So, it's a wonderful report and out of horror comes something healing and beautiful and a true gift. No tensions, just a instant bond and kinship. I have to make sure to get a good sleep so I'm bright eyed in the morning so that I can truly enjoy our day together.
She is returning in a few weeks with her husband to spend the long weekend with us to take in our local festival, the concerts, and to spend a few days getting to know easy child who is excited as heck to meet her new aunt.
Its been a insane roller coaster of a week, but I never expected to have such joy at this stage of it. Miracles come from the strangest places.