I am new to this group and reaching out for some emotional support to deal with my 30 year old son, who, after extensive research, I have diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic personality. There is nothing I can do that is enough for him although I have given so much to financially help him over the years. What I give is never enough. He is financially, emotionally, unstable. While he has actually alienated everybody that is supposed to mean something to him, I try to hang on as his mother. I can't even say that I "love" him as his verbal abuse is so constant and feels like daggers in my heart. The kicker is he lives very far away from me and our only contact is through Facebook. His messages to me are so insanely awful, I just don't know what to do anymore. I finally said no to one of his recent requests for help recently, and the abuse from him seems to get worse. Any suggestions would be appreciated.