hearts and roses
Mind Reader
[FONT=Times New Roman,Times,Serif]Okay ladies, I'm really reaching here for a little advice, words of comfort, perhaps some understanding and well...also to vent a bit.[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman,Times,Serif]I will probably delete this post in 24-48 hours - possible breach of privacy on my end, sorry. So if you're going to respond, please do so ASAP. Thanks.[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman,Times,Serif]The background: I have worked at my job, which is for a close family member (brother in law), for 12 years. My role is office manager. I have handled all the bookkeeping (the main business checking/savings as well as 6-7 excrow accounts), payroll, human resources, IT contact, vendor management, hiring protocols, executive administrator, etc. I've basically been wearing about 7-8 hats at any given time over the course of my job here, often all at once. I like my job. At times it's a bit rote and mundane because I've been doing it for so long and I know it frontwards and backwards. But at other times, usually in Spring and holiday times it's crazy - I love the craziness part of that. I hate to have absolutely nothing pressing to do because then I get lazy and bored and that's when I will start playing on-line games and surfing the net. Ugh. [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman,Times,Serif]Back in April during my job review my boss mentioned to me something about having our accountants take over the bookkeeping part of my job, which would include the payroll. This takes up a better portion of my time and job. In fact, it's the part of my job that I actually enjoy the most. At that time when he asked me about how I'd feel about it, I said I liked my job and would like to continue in that capacity. He said fine, we talked about other stuff and it was dropped, or so I thought. [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman,Times,Serif]We've been incredibly busy the past few months with new business and some extra things that have been planned for marketing stuff. Anyway, the boss has been traveling a lot and so we've both put some issues that needed discussing on the back burner. But out of nowhere yesterday he asks me if I have time to talk. Sure I said and by 3:40PM we still hadn't spoken so I called him and asked him if that was a good time. He said sure, I went in his office and I immediately could tell that he was nervous about whatever it was he had to tell me, so I just waited patiently while he tied up some loose ends on his desk. Then he turns to me and tells me that he is having the accountant's bring in a bookkeeper to take over the books and payroll. I was speechless, really...because although we had talked about it in April, it seemed apparent [to me] that something had transpired within the past week or so that prompted this - it became more apparent to me that something happened when he told me the change would take place THIS FRIDAY! Yes, I was given two days notice. I am not fired, but about 70% of my job is being taken away from me. There was no discussion about a demotion or loss of pay, etc., but I felt blindsided. I didn't ask why or anything because I was dumbfounded and couldn't speak. He asked me how I was with this decision and for fear of bursting into tears (I have severe PMS right now) I just said, "Okay" and he asked me how I felt about it, and again, I said, "Okay, it's your company" and that was that. [/FONT]
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[FONT=Times New Roman,Times,Serif]On the one hand I wouldn't mind giving up some of those responsibilities, as it would free me up to at least take a normal vacation without having to worry about payroll and getting the bills paid every Friday. Up until now, I've strategically planned my vacations around those things. But if the alternative is sitting at my desk all day typing letters for others, then no thank you. I freakin hate typing. I mean I can do it, and I am good at it, but I hate it. It's boring, mundane and mindless. Some people enjoy the routine of it and the simple tasks, I do not. I was too dumbfounded yesterday to ask him what I would be doing but when I reminded him that bookkeeping and payroll were about 75% of my job, he chuckled. [/FONT]
What is really niggling at me is the feeling that I am not trusted. I really hate the thought of someone, in particular my boss, feeling as if I cannot be trusted and I have no idea how to fix that.
[FONT=Times New Roman,Times,Serif]So, I want to open a discussion with him about this. I want to ask him if there was anything else that prompted this (since it was so fast a move without my being aware of it sooner) and I want to ask him what he has in mind for me - in what other capacity will I be working. [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman,Times,Serif]Would you open the discussion or just carry on and see what unfolds? Would you ask him if there was something else that prompted this is or just keep quiet about it and meditate to move past it? And if so, what would you say?[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman,Times,Serif]I will probably delete this post in 24-48 hours - possible breach of privacy on my end, sorry. So if you're going to respond, please do so ASAP. Thanks.[/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman,Times,Serif]The background: I have worked at my job, which is for a close family member (brother in law), for 12 years. My role is office manager. I have handled all the bookkeeping (the main business checking/savings as well as 6-7 excrow accounts), payroll, human resources, IT contact, vendor management, hiring protocols, executive administrator, etc. I've basically been wearing about 7-8 hats at any given time over the course of my job here, often all at once. I like my job. At times it's a bit rote and mundane because I've been doing it for so long and I know it frontwards and backwards. But at other times, usually in Spring and holiday times it's crazy - I love the craziness part of that. I hate to have absolutely nothing pressing to do because then I get lazy and bored and that's when I will start playing on-line games and surfing the net. Ugh. [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman,Times,Serif]Back in April during my job review my boss mentioned to me something about having our accountants take over the bookkeeping part of my job, which would include the payroll. This takes up a better portion of my time and job. In fact, it's the part of my job that I actually enjoy the most. At that time when he asked me about how I'd feel about it, I said I liked my job and would like to continue in that capacity. He said fine, we talked about other stuff and it was dropped, or so I thought. [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman,Times,Serif]We've been incredibly busy the past few months with new business and some extra things that have been planned for marketing stuff. Anyway, the boss has been traveling a lot and so we've both put some issues that needed discussing on the back burner. But out of nowhere yesterday he asks me if I have time to talk. Sure I said and by 3:40PM we still hadn't spoken so I called him and asked him if that was a good time. He said sure, I went in his office and I immediately could tell that he was nervous about whatever it was he had to tell me, so I just waited patiently while he tied up some loose ends on his desk. Then he turns to me and tells me that he is having the accountant's bring in a bookkeeper to take over the books and payroll. I was speechless, really...because although we had talked about it in April, it seemed apparent [to me] that something had transpired within the past week or so that prompted this - it became more apparent to me that something happened when he told me the change would take place THIS FRIDAY! Yes, I was given two days notice. I am not fired, but about 70% of my job is being taken away from me. There was no discussion about a demotion or loss of pay, etc., but I felt blindsided. I didn't ask why or anything because I was dumbfounded and couldn't speak. He asked me how I was with this decision and for fear of bursting into tears (I have severe PMS right now) I just said, "Okay" and he asked me how I felt about it, and again, I said, "Okay, it's your company" and that was that. [/FONT]
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[FONT=Times New Roman,Times,Serif]On the one hand I wouldn't mind giving up some of those responsibilities, as it would free me up to at least take a normal vacation without having to worry about payroll and getting the bills paid every Friday. Up until now, I've strategically planned my vacations around those things. But if the alternative is sitting at my desk all day typing letters for others, then no thank you. I freakin hate typing. I mean I can do it, and I am good at it, but I hate it. It's boring, mundane and mindless. Some people enjoy the routine of it and the simple tasks, I do not. I was too dumbfounded yesterday to ask him what I would be doing but when I reminded him that bookkeeping and payroll were about 75% of my job, he chuckled. [/FONT]
What is really niggling at me is the feeling that I am not trusted. I really hate the thought of someone, in particular my boss, feeling as if I cannot be trusted and I have no idea how to fix that.
[FONT=Times New Roman,Times,Serif]So, I want to open a discussion with him about this. I want to ask him if there was anything else that prompted this (since it was so fast a move without my being aware of it sooner) and I want to ask him what he has in mind for me - in what other capacity will I be working. [/FONT]
[FONT=Times New Roman,Times,Serif]Would you open the discussion or just carry on and see what unfolds? Would you ask him if there was something else that prompted this is or just keep quiet about it and meditate to move past it? And if so, what would you say?[/FONT]