Hi prayerful! Welcome to our little corner of the world! I am so sorry you are having trouble and needed to search us out, but so happy you found us!! This is a great group, lots of support, ideas and information.
As I understand it your son is 11. He is on the Principal's List for good grades, but for the past 6 years you have been working with a diagnosis of ADHD.
It truly is normal to have problems with depression with all that you are dealing with regarding your son. Many of us have been there, done that, and can't find the T-shirt in the dirty laundry! Go see your doctor and tell him/her about the depression, chest pains, weight gain, and everything else. This has to be a HUGE priority. If Mom isn't happy and healthy, no one else will even have a chance!!
As far as medications, many of us find depression to be a chemical change in our brains, and we find that there are medications that help. I know personally that if I didn't have prozac I would be in HORRID shape. You really aren't alone with this, I promise.
Why is the school calling about your son every day? Is is because he is hurting someone, misbehaving, refusing to go to class? with-o some idea of the behaviors it is hard to tell what is going on.
For your own records, go to the General Archive Forum. The last page, at the bottom, has a thread about a Parent Report. This is a way to organize all the info you have on your son, your goals for him, etc... It takes quite a bit of time to assemble/create this, so take it in chunks instead of all at once. It will be something you copy to give to various docs you work with, counsellors, etc... Whoever you want to have the information. (by the way, you are NOT required to give school any doctor records, and many of us ifnd it necessary to pick and choose what info the school gets. Better cautious than not.)
You will find lots of info in the Special Education forum about what to do to make the school cooperate with an IEP. There are regulations and laws about this, and our Special Education forum knows an amazing amount about them. Sending info to the school by certified mail is very important. I know it was wierd for me to do this, but it was the only way I managed to get the evaluation for my son. And I was the volunteer helping out several days a week at school!!
Take some time for yourself any chance you get. I hope we see more of you soon!
Hugs
Susie