So I get phone call from difficult child tonight. Should he reschdule his appointment with Link card office, which is in west side suburb where he was living before? Sure. Ask them which documents you need. If on a wednesday, I can go with you. Then, discouraged about job hunt. Had phone interview, feels he didn't do well. Had job offer but hours late and inconsistent with house curfew (3-1130) plus in close in north side college town suburb so transportation??? (no car). Plus safety late at night??? Then, the best for last. He's depressed. He's lonely. He misses everybody. He wants to move home. He misses his friends. But Mike, I said to him, you can't stand your dad. And you want to move home now? Oh, I've been working on that, he says. (His issues with dad have been going on for the last 5 years, since he'd been acting up, since dad refused to enable him). To recap, difficult child was in very restrictive halfway house/recovery program from March 2013 until last month when he moved to more liberal halfway house facility on north side of the city.. It is close to transportation, lots of jobs, lots of social services, and his sister, aunt and uncle, and cousin are not far away. We are on the south side. Friends are on the south side. I told him he is 27 years old and he needs to make a life for himself, we are not going to be here forever, he cannot drink (or use) anymore, ever again, we love him but he is going to have to learn to live his own life, we will be here and support him but he needs to learn to make it on his own. I told him he needs to start interacting and meeting with people at the meetings and at yoga (he started going to yoga. I got him a mat, yoga pants, a backpack a water bottle and a towel for his birthday and he actually signed up. He says it relaxes him.) He admitted he had not been going to meetings when i talked to him last week. I let the house manager know, and they really got on his case about it. I feel bad for him, and I can feel myself starting to sway, just a little bit. But I can't. And my husband...talked to him to and is so supportive of him despite the not good way difficult child has treated him...doesn't want him home either. It 's a problem. Even when he went away to school, he was home on the train or the bus every weekend. (His sister? never came home unless there was a party or something). I'm calling his therapist. My therapy appoinment isn't for three days so I need you guys to fill in!!!