Hello, I have been away for awhile and need advice. My difficult child is diagnosed with bi-polar. He has currently been taking Abilify 10.0 mg 1x/day and Clonidine 2 times/day (1/2 pill in am and 1 and 1/2 pill at bedtime). He continues to struggle with moods,oppositional behavior and has started some new behavior (playing with lighters). He is on spring break this week and my college age daughter has been watching him because the day care he usually goes to said they were full this week(think they probably didn't want him). She (college daughter) called 6 times between 10:00 and 12:30 because of his behavior. He wouldn't listen to her, wouldn't follow any rules etc. In the end, he locked himself in my bedroom and I had to come home from work and am not working today or tomorrow. I called the p-doctor and he said that he thinks we need to stop the abilify and start depakote. I am scared to death of the side effects. He has gained 23 pounds on the abilify (started the school year at 67 pounds and is not 90+). I have had to buy school clothes 3 times. I am worried about more weight gain, shakes and tremors etc. They would also like him to go to partial treatment at the hospital. We have did the partial thing 2 times and it's sort of good for nothing it seems. I drop him off and tell them how they day has been, I pick him up and the person who I pick him up from really doesn't know much of how they day went. There is not d/c staffing and then we are back home again. No ongoing plan, recommendations, etc. On top of that, it costs a bunch of money. I am certain there probably isn't a "magic pill" that will make all of this better but I am really worried about the depakote. The last time he was hospitalized (last Feb.) they recommended residential placement but I am afraid they will just medicate him into complacency and when he returns he will be more "different" than he is now, plus am mot sure if I can repeat that type of structure at home. Any feedback and all feedback would be welecomed. I am at the end of my rope (been here more times than i can count).