I haven't posted in a long time but things have been good. My granddaughter who's been with me since 2 1/2, now 14 has still got some issues but the biggest problem....her hurting my animals (she broke one dogs leg and hurt many others) finally stopped last fall. She still lies and sneaks but not out of control like she used to. Overall things have improved dramatically. She's back in school after being homeschooled, does her homework and chores and is trying. Because of all this we've had a much improved relationship. Little fighting, lots of I love you's and respect and it's been since last fall so it's not been just a lull in the trouble. More like a real change. Before I pulled her out of school last year she was missing a lot because of the issues at home. This year she's only missed one day and they went back 8/13. Now the problem. She's met a girl at school and they've become fast friends. This girl misses a lot of school like M used to. Her father coaches girls softball and she really wanted M to join. It was $60 to join and then about $100 in equip. and clothing. I said we just don't have it. Financially we're not doing well and she's very aware of this. I said if I made a sale I would let her though because I want her to have as normal a life as she can. She missed so much because of behavior. She came home and said they said they would waive all fee's and lend her the equip. I thought it was school sanctioned but it's not. She said the dad was willing to meet her and take her with his daughter to a park and teach her. I said I wasn't comfortable with that. I don't know them. I did let her join and I took her to first practice last Thurs although they keeps saying they will take her. It was suppose to be 6 - 8 Thurs. and then Sun. 1-3. The field didn't have lighting so they quit at 7:30 and said they would just double up on Sun. and not do Thurs. Sunday I did let them drive her. We're in the country so it's a 45 min. ride to the field. They were gone from 1pm to 7pm. Then they said they were still doing Thurs. and that they were going to pick her up at school along with her friend today and go back to their house before practice. When I met the mother at the field she said she never lets her daughter ride the bus to and from school. Then M tells me her friend was out of school Mon. and Tues. I asked why she misses so much school and M tells she asked and she was told if you knew my family you would understand. So she was back in school yesterday and I asked if she asked why she was out and she said she had chicken pox. I said that can't be true. She was fine on Sun and Wed. she back...it wasn't chicken pox. All I can see in all this is people that never met M. before who appear not to have much money either willing to waive all fee's, lend her or get her everything she needs, wanting to drive her to and from, now wanting to pick her up for practice and take her to their house, offering to spend another evening on top of those 2 times individually coaching her, being gone for 6 hours Sun. and reinstating the practice tonight, their own kid can't get to school, has to be driven and picked when she goes and the kid is lying about why she's missing so much school. Something feels wrong here. I am getting very uncomfortable with all this. It feels like its too much too soon and something isn't right here and I don't know what but all this softball time when you can't get your kid too school even seems off. And usually the parents around here that drive their kids everyday are also the parents that won't let their kids miss school. These folks may be wonderful people but if feels like somethings wrong here. I told M I didn't want her going to their house just yet before she came home and said they planned to pick her up Thurs. If we keep doing this I plan on driving her but right now I feel like I want to say lets try next year and forget the whole thing. Am I just being paranoid? I know I may be so I'm asking for impartial opinions. I a Sorry this was so long.