difficult child is the most negative person I've ever known. And that's saying a lot...if you knew my aunt or difficult child's dad, you'd understand. She's always been this way. Always. I've spent her entire life trying to change that line of thinking, but I really haven't even made a dent. Heaven forbid you do something that she thinks is against her...whether it actually is or not doesn't matter...she will hold it against you forever. But do something nice for her and it's forgotten the next day. It's very difficult for me to understand it. I have my moments where I'm feeling overwhelmed, but I always find the good in everything. I'm a realist and see things how they are, but I'm always optimistic and hopeful. Not so with difficult child. No one has ever had it as bad as her. No one. My mother was fed up with how materialistic difficult child is - after difficult child wanted something, was told no, and then complained how she never gets anything. (Read BBK's post on how much stuff difficult child has.) So, my mom wonders if taking difficult child to volunteer in a homeless shelter or soup kitchen would show her what it's like to really have nothing. I told her she could try, but that I honestly think difficult child's reaction would be along the lines of, "So. They're used to not having anything." How sad is it that that is what I expect from my child? I really don't know how to get through to her. She's too young now, but I foresee a Borderline Personality diagnosis in her future. Her therapist agrees.