I just have to say I love this site! Found it a few weeks back and am so relieved I'm not alone! My 3 year old DS is very oppositional and aggressive...we had thought that maybe he was simply a 'spirited' child until the last 6 months, where he's had some really miserable episodes of behaviour. Violent meltdowns that sometimes last hours, lots of head banging and hitting, biting, scratching at our faces; was asked to leave one daycare already. I used to think this was some kind of terrible twos thing; that he`d eventually grow out of it. But I`ve recently discovered that there's a family history of BiPolar (BP) on husband's side of the family, so I'm wondering if he has some sort of mood disorder My step mother is a school psychologist and highly recommended a colleague of hers to help us out with our issues. We were able to bypass his typical year-long waitlist (our supported child development worker even knows of him and praised his work). At our first phychologist app`t with him, we discussed the behavioural issues + history (I brought in a 8 page print-out detailing his general behaviour, recent episdoes, developmental history, and the exhaustive list of parenting techniques we have employed; the second app`t I brought DS in for some one-on-one evaluation...said no developmental or cognitive delay...no further evaluation recommended at this time. The 3rd app`t was going to outline strategies for managing DS`s behaviour. Finally...gasp...some help. And here`s what he recommended: 1-2-3- magic!? Are you kidding me? It was a parenting 101 session. Catch them when they're good + praise them dramatically, and immediate consequences when bad etc. etc....I just can't believe it! I don't think he heard what I've been saying (or wrote in my documentation, for that matter)..my boy is resistant to standard discipline techniques. We've tried and tried and tried. The advice in standard parenting books offer little resolution to our difficulties with him. It's like there's something just not there in bis brain...his desire to please those he's attached to is pretty much absent, unless of course it's something that he wants to do himself. I was so looking forward to this appointment as I thought it would offer some real solutions...some steps in the right direction. I just feel so devastated...I was so hopeful about this appointment. I suppose I`ll stay on with him for a few more sessions (as he`s so highly recommended) to see if anything useful develops out of this, but this just doesn`t feel right So, a question for you all: For those of you out there who've tried the psychologist route, is this how a psychiatric would start out some kind of behavioural modification strategy (i.e. laying a basic framework maybe) or is this just plain silly? I'm half-way through the explosive child, and am finding it amazingly refreshing and helpful...it just seems that the 1-2-3 magic thing is just way too basic. Glad to have found you guys!