njmom
NJ mom
Hi there...I'm feeling very broken and defeated. My 12 year old son has been diagnosed ADHD/ODD since he was 5, and medicated with concerta since then. His father is diagnosed bipolar and refuses medication, which is why I divorced him when my son was 7. My son is a staright A student,and is involved in sports. However, for the past year (since puberty) he's been out of control. He still maintains his grades, and he does show remorse for the things he does. He has no control over his emotions, he goes from hot to cold in minutes. He cries when he thinks people are picking in him, he has hit kids who he has felt are making fun of him and ended up having detention and then in school suspension. He has no filter to know when boys are just joking around with each other. We left his normal therapist because she thought he has more of a conduct disorder and he now gets more intensive therapy twice a week for 2 hours. Therapy doesnt seem to work for him, he's been in therapy for 6 years. I think that he has bipolar but his child psychiatrist says you can't diagnose it this young. She diagnosed him with Disruptive mood dysregulation disorder and added 2 mg of abilify a month ago to his concerta and 3 mg of intuniv for his impulsivity. He also has a lot of anxiety. In December I realized that he was urinating in his bedroom at the foor of the bed and alos in the playroom behind the couch. Finally after lying about it for weeks i actually caught him, but only then did he admit to it. He had no reason for doing it. I took him to the doctor for bloodwork to rule out any emdical issue. He stopped doing it until this weekend when i saw that he's been doing it again in the playroom. I am at my wits end. I don't know what I did wrong, he wasn't ever physically or sexually abused. This weekend I asked him to give me his phone during a play we were at and he loojed at me with eyes that looked like he wanted to hurt me. He has stolen money from my husband and he is also a closet eater. I have to hide food because he will eat it and then hise the wrappers in the couch. He has always had trouble making friends, and the friends he does have all are a little awkward or have issues like ADHD, etc. I have a call into his psychiatrist because obviously the abilify which he's been on a month is not working. Does anyone else relate to any of this? Is there any medication you think "works"? I think I'm losing my sanity. I miss my old son.