Greetings all,
Glad there is a forum to discuss these issues.
Background:
We have a 19 yo son who will be out of jail soon for stealing.
He stole from a family friend but has stolen from us and other family members.
We told him to leave when he was 18 for very disrespectful behavior, constant lying, sneaking out, getting his girlfriend pregnant, hanging out with druggies, etc.
Every-time we try to help him it seems to only magnify the problems so we have been hands off as much as we can. (example, sending him to college, paying for room & board, then he doesn't bother going to class or to his dorm, giving him a truck to drive to work only to have him drive hundreds of miles per day and then steal gas to support his driving habit).
We tried to get him working but he chooses not to keep a job (again, just does not show up or maybe he's stolen there also).
After the failed college snafu and rebellion to the point of being homeless, the grandparents stepped in and housed him as long as they could BUT getting arrested was the last straw with them, so he now has no place to live (when he gets out).
He is/was a nice kid, raised in church, not prone to physical anger. He has Tourettes syndrome (no not the Hollywood cursing version, just movement and vocal tics).
I could add so many other details but here's my question for the group:
Where can we send him where he might actually get help for his behavior?
He cant stay with us or any other family members due to the multiple bridges he has burned.
He says he wants mental help, but he could be just be playing us again, telling us what we want to hear.
(We've paid for visits to a therapist but no change in behavior)
Youth camps seem to cut them off at 18
Glad there is a forum to discuss these issues.
Background:
We have a 19 yo son who will be out of jail soon for stealing.
He stole from a family friend but has stolen from us and other family members.
We told him to leave when he was 18 for very disrespectful behavior, constant lying, sneaking out, getting his girlfriend pregnant, hanging out with druggies, etc.
Every-time we try to help him it seems to only magnify the problems so we have been hands off as much as we can. (example, sending him to college, paying for room & board, then he doesn't bother going to class or to his dorm, giving him a truck to drive to work only to have him drive hundreds of miles per day and then steal gas to support his driving habit).
We tried to get him working but he chooses not to keep a job (again, just does not show up or maybe he's stolen there also).
After the failed college snafu and rebellion to the point of being homeless, the grandparents stepped in and housed him as long as they could BUT getting arrested was the last straw with them, so he now has no place to live (when he gets out).
He is/was a nice kid, raised in church, not prone to physical anger. He has Tourettes syndrome (no not the Hollywood cursing version, just movement and vocal tics).
I could add so many other details but here's my question for the group:
Where can we send him where he might actually get help for his behavior?
He cant stay with us or any other family members due to the multiple bridges he has burned.
He says he wants mental help, but he could be just be playing us again, telling us what we want to hear.
(We've paid for visits to a therapist but no change in behavior)
Youth camps seem to cut them off at 18