I have a ss that is our difficult child. I don't know all the abbreviations yet but am learning. I have been with my partner for 4 years now and difficult child is 18 now. He has had trouble from a very young age that his mom has been dealing with. Latest diagnosis is psychosis non specified he has had audio and some visual hallucinations. He graduated last year and since turning 18 stopped taking his medication. He has anger problems says he hates both me and his mom but we are the only ones who give him rules. We believe if he is living in our home that he has to follow some basic rules and they aren't much. He does ok if we just leave him alone and let him ignore us and we ignore him. The minute we ask him to help with the kitchen or get his dirty dishes out of his room he get angry and that starts a fight. I try to stay out of it as much as possible. But it's hard when I hear him talk to his mom in such a disrespecful way to the point of calling her b****. I am having trouble myself with anger over all of this. I'm angry at him sometimes I think i take out my anger at my partner and I don't want to do that. He is almost all I can think about how difficult he is. I have been reading about detachment and that is helpful but honestly I find it so hard when he is living in our home. I see him everyday and just seeing him gets me in a bad mood and seems to be all I can think about. I just need a place to vent, I 'm not even sure if all this is making sense there are so many emotions going on in me right now. My partner used to be part of this forum when her difficult child was younger and she was learning. She said it helped her and she recommended the forums to me. Thanks for listening.