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Liahona
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New because difficult child 1 and therapist came up with it themselves, no Mama input at all. difficult child 1's goals are now
Happy Relations:
1. Soft Voice
2. Soft Touch
3. Soft Looks
What does this mean?
1. Soft Voice: no mean voice, no growling, or being loud.
2. Soft Touch: no hitting, no whacking with stick or anything else
3. Soft Looks: no scowling, no making mean faces or gestures
For 1, 2, and 3 do not pretend
Consequence Program:
Time Out immediately (one min per yr of age)
Apology Letter (20-30 words)
Restitution:
1 personal act of service to person
Small gift to person
Fix or replace item if broke
Do that persons chores for 2 days
So far he has had 3 instances today. The first was even before we left the tdocs building. difficult child 1 tried to say that because I put him in time out he didn't have to do the letter or restitution. I said he had to do all three, but he could pick which one of the restitutions from the chart. And I'm making him write the letter so it can be read and if it's to a child who can't read he has to read it to them. Ann was delighted when he read it to her today. (And that was a hard one for him to write because he felt she deserved what he did.)
Happy Relations:
1. Soft Voice
2. Soft Touch
3. Soft Looks
What does this mean?
1. Soft Voice: no mean voice, no growling, or being loud.
2. Soft Touch: no hitting, no whacking with stick or anything else
3. Soft Looks: no scowling, no making mean faces or gestures
For 1, 2, and 3 do not pretend
Consequence Program:
Time Out immediately (one min per yr of age)
Apology Letter (20-30 words)
Restitution:
1 personal act of service to person
Small gift to person
Fix or replace item if broke
Do that persons chores for 2 days
So far he has had 3 instances today. The first was even before we left the tdocs building. difficult child 1 tried to say that because I put him in time out he didn't have to do the letter or restitution. I said he had to do all three, but he could pick which one of the restitutions from the chart. And I'm making him write the letter so it can be read and if it's to a child who can't read he has to read it to them. Ann was delighted when he read it to her today. (And that was a hard one for him to write because he felt she deserved what he did.)