Hello all. I feel like I have known the regular members here on the forum for along time, because I have been reading this forum for about a year. You guys have given me so much comfort over the year. I felt like it was time to start posting my story to get some feedback from moms and dads with similar difficult children. Here goes I hope it makes sense. My difficult child has been a hard child to raise. Starting around second grade, then middle school came. He developed this strong anger and started pulling away from the family around that time. High School anger continued but drugs and alcohol entered the picture. He had a great girlfriend. Her family and ours has been friends for 3 generations. She was class president, captain of the cheerleaders, strong christian, sweet girl. They dated for 2 years. In his senior year, he decided she was no fun, so he dumped her for the fun girls that liked drugs and alcohol. After that breakup he has gotten worse. We kicked him out of the house when he was 18 years, due to not wanting to follow home rules and continuing to do drugs and not go to college. He got full time job with ex-girlfriends dad, so we helped him get an apartment, BIG MISTAKE, he lost the job due to drug test. He returned to live with us, stayed about a year, working everyday, but the deal was for him to save money to move out. He was starting to give us problems again, so we ask him how many money he has saved because its time to move out. He had not saves anything, but used it all on drugs. He admitted to using drugs everyday he had been living with us. At that point he packed his stuff and moved out. Fours months goes by, and he calls us crying wanting help for his drug use, but I think it was just to get him out of the mess he was in. However, we got him into an outpatient treatment program, because insurance would only pay for outpatient. If he fells outpatient they will approve inpatient. So he has been pretty verbally respectful to us, but he is changing now. He never has been violate to us, but he can be violate in a social setting. However, a month ago he comes home drunk and had taken 12 xanax, had a blackout and busted in the front door. We called the police, which is the first time we had to do that. Now, difficult child went to a new year's eve party with his best friend from high school, started drinking alcohol, saw old girlfriend from high school. He left the party without problems, and went back to best friends apartment and destroyed it. Police came, difficult child was in a blackout state, he was taken to jail, 3 charges, and one felony. We picked him up from jail and took him to inpatient treatment. He wanted to go. I have been reading your stories and new chaos, but difficult child had not done the violence, jail, blackouts, ect. I thought it might be coming, but was not sure. I guess what I am trying to say is since I have been reading this forum I know whats coming and I can't stop it (him), and he can't or want see it. Most importantly what is it? Inpatient treatment will be doing a psychiatric evaluation, so maybe I will get more information to help him/us.