I'm sorry you're tired, and know how that goes. It actually took until my son was 11 to get the right diagnosis. and right help. I agree with those who said, however, that ODD almost never stands alone. It's hard for professionals to make the right diagnosis. My son had a slew of them, and they all missed the real problem (until he saw a neuropsychologist at 11). Frankly, I wouldn't trust a regular neurologist to diagnose a childhood disorder that affects behavior--it's not their field. They can spot and test for stuff like epilepsy, but I wouldn't trust them to tell bipolar from ODD from ADHD from Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). We had no luck with any neurologists, in that regard. Maybe your neurologist can refer you to a neuropsychologist. Neuropsychs run a lot of tests (12 hours worth here) and don't just take guesses, like so many other professionals do--many just see your kid for one hour and pull out the prescription pad, and that didn't work for MY kid either. He's on the autism spectrum, high-functioning, and they all missed it, so he was on about ten medications that he didn't need. However, you can't go on living the way you are. I recommend biting the bullet and trying again--that's what we had to do even though we got sick of it and met a lot of bad professionals along the way. My son puzzled them because he didn't fit a psychiatric diagnosis. Well, duh, he didn't HAVE one, but nobody told us that it could be Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), even though we'd brought up possible high functioning autism. Guess what? WE WERE RIGHT. The right diagnosis. made all the diff for my kid. He's almost 14 now and extremely well behaved and is getting help for the difficulties he has due to his Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD). He's a far different child than he used to be, very happy and functioning well. He had two wrong early diagnoses: ADHD/ODD and Bipolar. However, your child DOES display bipolar raging (mine didn't). What medications has he been on that didn't work? Maybe the psychiatrist (if a psychiatrist is who you saw) was giving him the wrong medications for bipolar, which can make it worse. ODD kids often tend to do well on BiPolar (BP) medications, making me think ODD is really often bipolar, misdiagnosed. Stimulants and antidepressants would make a bipolar child worse. A lot of fathers go into denial. Mine wasn't in denial, but he wasn't proactive. I had to do all the work, going to appointments, etc. He didn't fight me on it, but he didn't help. I guess that's what makes mothers special, huh?