Hi, I just found this sight, and I am hoping I can get some advice on what to do for my son, because I am so heartbroken & defeated, I just don't know what the right thing is to do anymore. He is 16, was diagnosed with ADD when he was 6. He has taken a variety of medications: Ritalin, Concerta, Paxil, and is now on Focalin & Stratera. The Focalin & Stratera seemed to be the best mix for him, & he has been taking them for about 1 year. While he has always been a strong-willed child, he has a heart of gold. He can be so thoughtful of others, and will do things for them (me included) just to surprise them. An example is: my husband has an old grill that he takes to football games for tailgaiting, and the handle on top was broken. One day, while puttering in the garage, my son found some knobs, and put them on the lid for my husband. He didn't tell my husband he did it, he just did & waited for him to see it. This is just a tiny example of how kind & thoughtful he can be. In the past 6 mos or so, he has become, at times extremely hostile. He loses his temper very easily, doesn't care about school, homework each night is a nightmare, and when he loses his temper, he will break things, use fowl language to me & my husband, and then he will just leave the house even though we have told him no. He is very passionate about skateboarding, and when his attitude & behavior, & refusal to do homework, he is told he cannot go to the skate park, and at this time, that is what seems to set him off the most. He has threatened to hit me, & today he got so angry when I told him he couldn't go, he through something at me, said **** you & left, even though I told him no, and to get back in the house. My husband, (who is my sons' step-father) thinks the best course of action is to call the police. This scares me to death. I don't want my son to be "in the system" so to speak. And, I don't think it will do anything but make him more angry, hostile, and defiant. I have had him in counseling several times, but he basically won't talk, so I stopped the counseling about 6 mos ago. I have however made an appointment to start again next week. I apologize if I've rambled, but I am just at a loss as to what to do, and as the title of my post says, I am just heartbroken. Is there anyone who has been through this as well? Because I totally feel & have convinced myself that I have failed him.