jdharris79
2Tired2Fight
Hi, I really hope you do not mind that I am reaching out from up here but theres not much support around my "neck of the woods" lol. I have 2 beautiful smart independent sons, my youngest is 19 months and his father and i have been together for almost 4 years now who has also stepped up and taken responsibilty for my difficult child who is almost 10 years old. His bio father has had no contact with him for over 5 years and is not stable to see him(who was diagnosed bipolar at the age of 16)
My 10 year old here is my difficult child, very sweet loving ,independent,charismatic boy in a 130 pound body with a raging temper that he cycles trough 5 or 6 times a day. Just recently we had a full physcological assessment done which came back with a definite diagnosis of oppositional defiance disorder and childhood bipolar BUT NO ADHD. Which I am now trying to get removed from his record with the school board as he has been lablled adhd for 6 years. THe report actually came back that attention and concentration are one of his strongest asssets and he is actually perfectally capable of doing his grade 4 work at a grade 4 level he just chooses NOT TO.
To date we have tried ritalin which made his aggression 10X worse and he was running around like an adult on cocaine.....dexedrine and adderall had the same adverse side affects. He was on risperadol for almost 2 years but was taken off when he blew up to 130 lbs and now only on serequol which honestly we see no difference and we are up to 150mg a day.....
We have not seen the pediatrician since the physc results have come in but I am sure I will get an earfull from him as the physcologist was concerned as to treating this child which was clearly not adhd with adhd drugs and concerned that the doctor had diagnosed him oppositional at the age of 4 but we were not made aware of this.
As it stands now we are donig everything in our power to deter the conduct disorder which we can see happenning already. We have had the police called because he has choked another child and also we had 2 older 13 year old boys charged with assualt with a weapon as they shot him with air soft pellet guns on the way home from school . Which really pisses me off the next day he turned around and punched a little girl at school which she ended up going to the hospital for. Nothing sinks in his head. Not even natural consequences.
RIght now he sees a long term mental health counsellor once a week for 2 hours, he goes to a social skills group once a week for 4 hours and sees a dietician once a week. I also have a respite worker come in for 10 hours a week that takes him out of the home.Hence why I have recently quit my job to take care of his needs because it is impossible to work with a child like this.
We are trying to get him into a 4 month residiatintial program here where he only comes home on weekends that is suppose to be amazing in behaviour modification but there is sooo much goverment red tape to jump through to get in its ridiculous and there is only 8 beds in my whole state.
We have a bed avaible in septemebr for him but I have to finish a parenting course to prove to them we have exhausted all resources in our area and in the community before he can go to residiential and now its just to surivive until september.
Everyday is a constant fight and constant power struggle. To the outsider looking in I am sure they think I just have a spoiled rotten child throwing a temper tantrum but in reatlity if they took a walk in my shoes they would fall the first step.
Jill
p.s sorry for the typos and spelling mistakes...its saturday morning so I have my 9 year old bouncing around me driving me insane.....
My 10 year old here is my difficult child, very sweet loving ,independent,charismatic boy in a 130 pound body with a raging temper that he cycles trough 5 or 6 times a day. Just recently we had a full physcological assessment done which came back with a definite diagnosis of oppositional defiance disorder and childhood bipolar BUT NO ADHD. Which I am now trying to get removed from his record with the school board as he has been lablled adhd for 6 years. THe report actually came back that attention and concentration are one of his strongest asssets and he is actually perfectally capable of doing his grade 4 work at a grade 4 level he just chooses NOT TO.
To date we have tried ritalin which made his aggression 10X worse and he was running around like an adult on cocaine.....dexedrine and adderall had the same adverse side affects. He was on risperadol for almost 2 years but was taken off when he blew up to 130 lbs and now only on serequol which honestly we see no difference and we are up to 150mg a day.....
We have not seen the pediatrician since the physc results have come in but I am sure I will get an earfull from him as the physcologist was concerned as to treating this child which was clearly not adhd with adhd drugs and concerned that the doctor had diagnosed him oppositional at the age of 4 but we were not made aware of this.
As it stands now we are donig everything in our power to deter the conduct disorder which we can see happenning already. We have had the police called because he has choked another child and also we had 2 older 13 year old boys charged with assualt with a weapon as they shot him with air soft pellet guns on the way home from school . Which really pisses me off the next day he turned around and punched a little girl at school which she ended up going to the hospital for. Nothing sinks in his head. Not even natural consequences.
RIght now he sees a long term mental health counsellor once a week for 2 hours, he goes to a social skills group once a week for 4 hours and sees a dietician once a week. I also have a respite worker come in for 10 hours a week that takes him out of the home.Hence why I have recently quit my job to take care of his needs because it is impossible to work with a child like this.
We are trying to get him into a 4 month residiatintial program here where he only comes home on weekends that is suppose to be amazing in behaviour modification but there is sooo much goverment red tape to jump through to get in its ridiculous and there is only 8 beds in my whole state.
We have a bed avaible in septemebr for him but I have to finish a parenting course to prove to them we have exhausted all resources in our area and in the community before he can go to residiential and now its just to surivive until september.
Everyday is a constant fight and constant power struggle. To the outsider looking in I am sure they think I just have a spoiled rotten child throwing a temper tantrum but in reatlity if they took a walk in my shoes they would fall the first step.
Jill
p.s sorry for the typos and spelling mistakes...its saturday morning so I have my 9 year old bouncing around me driving me insane.....