Woofens
New Member
I've been a member for a while, but have never posted... a friend told me about this board when I started having trouble with my oldest son, but I never posted. Now I am at my wits end... with my youngest difficult child. My baby, he is almost 7, and we have been having trouble with him for over 2 years now. He broke my wrist kicking me 2 years ago, when he was not quite 5, he has sent my babysitter ( she is more than that, she is my daughter in my heart) to the ER on more than 1 occasion, once for kicking her so hard in the chest we thought he had cracked her sternum.
He is super intelligent, (probably too smart) and extremely strong for his age and size. I can not physically restrain him (haven't been able to for almost 3 years). He has gotten worse over the past few months, and had a "tantrum" for lack of a better word at the DR office when we went in for his physical. The DR heard the commotion and burst in the room as he was trying to kick me. She went so far as to suggest sedating him to calm him down. It didn't come to that, but it was bad. She then recommended we see a child psychologist. We have him seeing a therapist, with an appointment to see the psychiatrist in 4 months. (The soonest they can get us in).
On a daily basis, we deal with tantrums, outright defiance, name calling, threats (to harm us or to run away) destruction of property, screaming, all the while laughing in my face. My 10 and 11 YO easy child daughters are terrified of him, because they never know when he is going to explode. He has uncontrollable rages when he lashes out at everyone and everything around him, and to be honest I am afraid of him also. He has the strength to physically hurt me, and has in the past. He is a master at exploiting weakness, he knows that the babysitter has an injured wrist and if provoked tries to grab and twist her wrist every chance he gets.
He only acts like this at home or in public with me and my SO. He causes no problems at school or when he is with his father every other weekend ( only day visits, never overnight). I am actually to the point where I am ready to see if he qualifies for placement out of home. I have considered giving custody of him to his dad, but his dad is an alcoholic with an alcoholic live in girlfriend that has already lost her kids, so that isn't a good option.
I'm so frustrated and upset... I don't know what to do anymore. This is an everyday occurrence in the home, most days numerous times a day. I am in tears at least once a day, and I am so tired of living like this. I can't help but think, if he is like this at 6, what will he be like at 16?? That terrifies me.
He is the youngest of my children, I also have an almost 18 difficult child who lives with my mother (she thought she could control him, and in her eyes it was my fault he was out of control) he is a HS drop out with no job, no drivers license, and is constantly begging handouts from us.
I guess I just wanted to say hi, and cry a bit on someones shoulder.
Woofens
He is super intelligent, (probably too smart) and extremely strong for his age and size. I can not physically restrain him (haven't been able to for almost 3 years). He has gotten worse over the past few months, and had a "tantrum" for lack of a better word at the DR office when we went in for his physical. The DR heard the commotion and burst in the room as he was trying to kick me. She went so far as to suggest sedating him to calm him down. It didn't come to that, but it was bad. She then recommended we see a child psychologist. We have him seeing a therapist, with an appointment to see the psychiatrist in 4 months. (The soonest they can get us in).
On a daily basis, we deal with tantrums, outright defiance, name calling, threats (to harm us or to run away) destruction of property, screaming, all the while laughing in my face. My 10 and 11 YO easy child daughters are terrified of him, because they never know when he is going to explode. He has uncontrollable rages when he lashes out at everyone and everything around him, and to be honest I am afraid of him also. He has the strength to physically hurt me, and has in the past. He is a master at exploiting weakness, he knows that the babysitter has an injured wrist and if provoked tries to grab and twist her wrist every chance he gets.
He only acts like this at home or in public with me and my SO. He causes no problems at school or when he is with his father every other weekend ( only day visits, never overnight). I am actually to the point where I am ready to see if he qualifies for placement out of home. I have considered giving custody of him to his dad, but his dad is an alcoholic with an alcoholic live in girlfriend that has already lost her kids, so that isn't a good option.
I'm so frustrated and upset... I don't know what to do anymore. This is an everyday occurrence in the home, most days numerous times a day. I am in tears at least once a day, and I am so tired of living like this. I can't help but think, if he is like this at 6, what will he be like at 16?? That terrifies me.
He is the youngest of my children, I also have an almost 18 difficult child who lives with my mother (she thought she could control him, and in her eyes it was my fault he was out of control) he is a HS drop out with no job, no drivers license, and is constantly begging handouts from us.
I guess I just wanted to say hi, and cry a bit on someones shoulder.
Woofens