robinm1922
One day at a time
Hello,
I posted a month or so ago about my difficult child. To catch you all up she is 15 and was diagnosed with major depression and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) in April. Went on 50mg of Zoloft did great for about 6 months then went into a slow relapse. Started to notice more and more naps, snappier moods thought most of it was adjusting to the new school year. Progress reports were ok not great but not horrible. Then came report cards along with really nasty behavior, not going to detention because she "didn't feel like it" and not doing any school work at all. Every single grade dropped, I had made several mistakes. 1st not researching her illness until she was really bad again, not letting the teachers know what was going on with her and finally thinking that her medications were going to be the "fix all".
When report cards came home and several teachers told me (after me letting them know what was wrong with her) what she was doing in class or should I say not doing her Zoloft was increased. Two weeks on the increase and not much change.
She was changed over to Celexa 20mg, that was two weeks ago and she is responding very well to the new medications.
In between the increase of Zoloft and the change to Celexa I met with the schools guidance counselor and the school psychologist. We talked about her grades and their concern over the HSA (high school assessments that she has to pass this year) the out come of the meeting was they were both going to talk to her to see where she "was" and then go to an after school club that is designed to help students pass the HSA's.
She is in club, which I love since it has broken her come home and nap habit but that is all that has been done. Her progress report came home yesterday all E's except two classes. What do I do from here?
I know most of her E's were while she was in a major depression so how do I react to that?
Everything I thought I knew as a parent has been turned up side down. It seems when I push it shuts her down, my thoughts right now are to let her figure this out herself. She is intelligent so I know she can do it brains wise, it is the "short wiring" I am not sure about. At some point she is going to have to realize that she needs to be accountable for her work ethic, no work no reward. Is that too much to expect from her for now?
What do I do? If I do nothing except support then she runs the risk of failing the 10th grade, I guess that wouldn't be the end of the world.
Do I go back to the school and ask they get more involved?
Is Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and depression enough for an IEP?
I contacted the head person for our school board that deals with IEP's asking if my difficult child would be a candidate for an IEP and was told that each case is unique and that I need to start at the school level.
She made it a point to use the "Special Education" words several times like it was something to scare me off.
I am trying so hard to balance so many things, my husband (her step dad) doesn't understand what she is going though. He doesn't get the fact somethings she can't control, that is something I am just figuring out too.
I would take this on myself any day this has been the hardest thing I have ever dealt with. I have been through a lot of bad stuff but nothing compares to the stress and helplessness I feel right now.
I am going to a parent support group tomorrow night, hopefully I can get some answers there as well.
I guess I am going to need to meet with the psychologist and counselor again and see what to do from here.
My difficult child told me she is trying much harder now, do I wait and see what she is able to pull out?
Awwww what to do what to do???![faint :faint: :faint:](/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif)
Crystal ball anyone?
Thanks for letting me vent, I don't feel so alone here!
Have a wonderful holiday!
I posted a month or so ago about my difficult child. To catch you all up she is 15 and was diagnosed with major depression and Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) in April. Went on 50mg of Zoloft did great for about 6 months then went into a slow relapse. Started to notice more and more naps, snappier moods thought most of it was adjusting to the new school year. Progress reports were ok not great but not horrible. Then came report cards along with really nasty behavior, not going to detention because she "didn't feel like it" and not doing any school work at all. Every single grade dropped, I had made several mistakes. 1st not researching her illness until she was really bad again, not letting the teachers know what was going on with her and finally thinking that her medications were going to be the "fix all".
When report cards came home and several teachers told me (after me letting them know what was wrong with her) what she was doing in class or should I say not doing her Zoloft was increased. Two weeks on the increase and not much change.
She was changed over to Celexa 20mg, that was two weeks ago and she is responding very well to the new medications.
In between the increase of Zoloft and the change to Celexa I met with the schools guidance counselor and the school psychologist. We talked about her grades and their concern over the HSA (high school assessments that she has to pass this year) the out come of the meeting was they were both going to talk to her to see where she "was" and then go to an after school club that is designed to help students pass the HSA's.
She is in club, which I love since it has broken her come home and nap habit but that is all that has been done. Her progress report came home yesterday all E's except two classes. What do I do from here?
I know most of her E's were while she was in a major depression so how do I react to that?
Everything I thought I knew as a parent has been turned up side down. It seems when I push it shuts her down, my thoughts right now are to let her figure this out herself. She is intelligent so I know she can do it brains wise, it is the "short wiring" I am not sure about. At some point she is going to have to realize that she needs to be accountable for her work ethic, no work no reward. Is that too much to expect from her for now?
What do I do? If I do nothing except support then she runs the risk of failing the 10th grade, I guess that wouldn't be the end of the world.
Do I go back to the school and ask they get more involved?
Is Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and depression enough for an IEP?
I contacted the head person for our school board that deals with IEP's asking if my difficult child would be a candidate for an IEP and was told that each case is unique and that I need to start at the school level.
She made it a point to use the "Special Education" words several times like it was something to scare me off.
I am trying so hard to balance so many things, my husband (her step dad) doesn't understand what she is going though. He doesn't get the fact somethings she can't control, that is something I am just figuring out too.
I would take this on myself any day this has been the hardest thing I have ever dealt with. I have been through a lot of bad stuff but nothing compares to the stress and helplessness I feel right now.
I am going to a parent support group tomorrow night, hopefully I can get some answers there as well.
I guess I am going to need to meet with the psychologist and counselor again and see what to do from here.
My difficult child told me she is trying much harder now, do I wait and see what she is able to pull out?
Awwww what to do what to do???
![faint :faint: :faint:](/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif)
Crystal ball anyone?
Thanks for letting me vent, I don't feel so alone here!
Have a wonderful holiday!