As some of you may know my oldest son who is 30yrs. old and I have not spoken since August. I have cut him off financially and he was verbally abusive to me many, many times but at the last point of communication also physically threatened me, which was my threshold to block him. My cell phone "block" expired (because it only holds for 3mo. and then you have to input it again) and he got a voicemail through to me this morning. It has sent me spiraling again. I thought time was healing him but that is most definitely not the case. He screamed the whole voicemail at me demanding I help him with upcoming expenses. His car needs repair and he won't be able to get to work and his registration and inspection are coming up in January. He said if I don't help him it's the 2nd car of his "I" ruin (he seized the engine of an older vehicle we had given him because he didn't check the oil like we told him). He continued to demean me and called me a b****. All the while telling me if I have a heart to help him but he's sure cuz I'm a b**** I won't. I guess I just needed to vent to people who understand how I feel. It just boggles my mind that someone would speak to another person this way and expect them to help. The only person who has changed is me.