It's hard for me to post about kt & wm in the same thread. I have to switch gears & mindsets. Please be patient with me. wm is pushing, begging to come home - especially since his twin has come home. The sad part of all this is that wm is stuck, totally stuck in the same old place. While I know that he has some "challenges" he does have control over certain choices made; control over some of his behaviors & rages. wm told me that he isn't going to acknowledge bio mom. She doesn't exist anymore. For the time being, this is his coping skill about the trauma he endured in bio home. However, wm has a long journey ahead of him. A great deal to learn & process. During a recent phone call I actually hung up on my son. He kept insisting that it was the right time to come home - "I'm cured, mom". I thanked wm for sharing his thoughts however adults would make that decision. wm proceeded to share his special "terms of endearment" with me. As I was hanging up - foster mum (who supervises these calls) was yanking the phone out of wm's hand. Foster mum called back directly & assured me that wm was given consequences. I have an attachment therapist appointment with wm, Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker this coming Friday. Goals that wm must achieve will be discussed with wm once again. The likelihood of wm attaining those goals is minimal because of his very controlling nature & his seemingly ingrained attitudes toward kt & myself. Safety is the number one priority for husband & myself; wm has little ability to control his dangerous & boundary breaking impulses. wm is so stuck on "coming home" that he's not concentrating on the day to day issues - to learn the skills he must if he ever wants to live function in the real world. In the meantime, we discuss the family of different addresses. Thanks - just needed to get that out of my system.