klmno
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PO told me he wanted me to meet the "director" of detention reentry at the detention center, then after that meet with him (PO) on Tues.- just the two of us- then we could meet with detention reentry director and then some time after that, meet with reentry lady and her director. He said our mtg Tues would be "for me to tell him which services and source of funding I wanted' and to get on a unified front and that he thought breaking all these mtgs down and having them gradually would be a good step-by-step process. OK. I don't need all those mtgs with directors but whatever.
Then I go visit with difficult child today and the "director" (who's really a coordinator at the detention center and has nothing at all to do with this reentry program because the don't even have that developed yet) is the one doing the check-in and he says to me "you are going to be at the mtg Tues, right?" I asked what mtg and he says "didn't PO contact you?" I said he contacted me about a mtg just between the 2 of us, which is schedlued for Tues. afternoon, and then the coordinator looked confused. difficult child told me he'd had lunch with the coordinator and they'd talked and there is a mtg scheduled for 10:00 am Tues with difficult child, detention coordinator, reentry lady, and PO. Why wasn't I even informed of this, much less invited? And why was I being led to believe that I was mtg with PO Tues afternoon to tell PO what I preferred for services?
See, this is where things go awry. I guess I'll be calling PO 1st thing Tues am and telling difficult child, if he calls tomorrow, not to commit to ANYTHING until his mom and/or an attny is there and involved....he might be on parole, but he's still a minor and has a parental guardian. Period. This is the very manipulation tactic they use- get the kid to agree to anything just to get home then make it look like Mom is the bad guy for not buying into their "plan" to get the kid home. And they wonder why it's so hard to teach a teen to stop trying to manipulate and do under-handed koi.
Then I go visit with difficult child today and the "director" (who's really a coordinator at the detention center and has nothing at all to do with this reentry program because the don't even have that developed yet) is the one doing the check-in and he says to me "you are going to be at the mtg Tues, right?" I asked what mtg and he says "didn't PO contact you?" I said he contacted me about a mtg just between the 2 of us, which is schedlued for Tues. afternoon, and then the coordinator looked confused. difficult child told me he'd had lunch with the coordinator and they'd talked and there is a mtg scheduled for 10:00 am Tues with difficult child, detention coordinator, reentry lady, and PO. Why wasn't I even informed of this, much less invited? And why was I being led to believe that I was mtg with PO Tues afternoon to tell PO what I preferred for services?
See, this is where things go awry. I guess I'll be calling PO 1st thing Tues am and telling difficult child, if he calls tomorrow, not to commit to ANYTHING until his mom and/or an attny is there and involved....he might be on parole, but he's still a minor and has a parental guardian. Period. This is the very manipulation tactic they use- get the kid to agree to anything just to get home then make it look like Mom is the bad guy for not buying into their "plan" to get the kid home. And they wonder why it's so hard to teach a teen to stop trying to manipulate and do under-handed koi.
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