Well, you all have been wondering about what happened now that difficult child came home and I am sorry that I have not had time to update. So lets catch up --husband is still broken with his leg and they can't figure out why he won't heal. He has been out of work since August. I lost my job in January--long story but still have not found work due to the nerve damage in my hand. Prayed so long and hard for very long time to get my difficult child home -- had to BEG for this last chance (the judge had already ordered a 2 year commitment but it is suspended so that we could try MST) difficult child has been doing good for the most part -yeah he has had his average 16 year old BS that we all deal with even with our easy child kids. He had a very nice girl that he was dating (but of course when it ended it was all my fault) He did so great helping getting ready for his sisters grad party (which filled my heart with joy because the last sevearl years they have done nothing but fight and since he has been home I see that the realtionship is getting better of course niehter of them will admitt it!! Things have been very stressed getting ready for the party with all the cleaning (we decided to paint because of all the patch jobs over the years from difficult child punching the walls ) I am still trying to recover!! SOOO-- things have been goning fairly well --we invited difficult child's girlfriend to go with us to a party and it was good several days later I ask difficult child if he wants to invite her to come "chill" with us at the house ( I did not know they had hardly spoken since then) but she decided to break up with him over the phone at that time --Before the grad paprty-- Party was fantanstic for easy child-- now several days later difficult child has a major melt down and got in my face very threatening and knocked my drink out of my hand saying that it is my fault that girlfriend broke up with him. saw JPO and now he is on house arrest again--I am frustrated cause that only punishes US (am I right-- they fight with US so the punishment is for US to spend more time "babysitting" OH the system is so messed!! The JPO gave my difficult child the option to go to shelther for "HIM" to get a break ---HOW DO WE GET A BREAK??? I want to go to a Spa for punishment how do I get that ordered??? UGH WE spend at least 9-10 hours working with the MST and difficult child still complains that we are not working on "the problem" --why does he not get that HE is the one that needs to change and prove to the judge that he is going to be a valuable member of society. They are soooo clsoe to taking him away again and all he keeps saying is that he isn't doing anything illegal and they can't do anything to him but he isn't listening that the judge already told him that he CAN NOT treat me this way because he says cursing and yeling at me id not against the law. I am heart broken --he was doing so good when he came home then started to back slide-- we have so many other issues that he throws inmy face and adds fuel to the fire. We are working with an MST therapist and have learned alot about how he pushes my buttones and try to use these tools but sometimes it is hard.