BusynMember
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If smoke is coming off the page, it's because I'm ticked off.
Last weekend, hub and I took the kids to an overnighter at a waterpark. easy child asked three friends to come with, and they paid $20 each to stay with us. The next day, my difficult child son wanted to go home early to ask his girlfriend to homecoming and hub didn't want to stay all day either because he wanted to watch the Packers play so we told the girls that we were going home early. However, they still had wrist bands and could stay for the rest of the day IF they all called their parents and their parents said it was ok. If not, we'd take the girls home with us and drop them off. All three girls said they called home.
One girl, I'll call her Sara, nodded with the other two that she had called home. We left and picked them all up at 5 and dropped them off at their various houses.
That night, Sara got into trouble because she hadn't called and (get this) her parents said WE were irresponsible for leaving them alone (they are 12, can swim, and I thought she'd called home). That ticked me off right then and I wanted to call them to set them straight, but easy child begged me not to call.
Yesterday, easy child started crying hysterically because Sara had left her a mean message on her computer. She'd told easy child that she was a horrible friend, called her all sorts of names, made up all sorts of lies and said she would tell everyone at school so that she'd have no friends. I had to talk down easy child and tell her that NOT everyone would believe her. Remember, this all started because Sara got into trouble for lying and obviously didn't tell her parents that she had told us she'd called home. The girl is being hateful to my daughter. BUT...she doesn't want me to call Sara's parents.
Now Sara's parents are not the most stable couple. They have split up and gotten together again. I just found out from easy child that they both drink too much and once, when easy child was sleeping over there, had left them alone until 3am. THAT ticked me off. At any rate, she won't be sleeping there anymore, but Sara is giving her such a hard time and easy child is sensitive. I have to exert all the willpower on earth not to call these parents and at least tell them the truth. easy child cries every time I mention calling them: "You'll make it even worse." Arrrrrrrrrrgh.
What would you do? And how to you help your kids through these times? My only other daughter did drugs at age 12 and I never went through the normal "mean girl" stuff with her. I had other things to worry about. While I'm glad I don't have those ugly issues with easy child, I am not sure how to handle this stuff. I never went through it as I would find one good friend every year--I hated the way crowds treated each other.
My daughter goes to a school where there are only fifteen girls in seventh grade, so she can't just mingle with others. All the girls are sort of intertwined. There are many three little groups. One has another "mean girl" in it. The other group she says are "geeks." I told her to hang with the geeks. She doesn't want to.
Can we say CRAZY?
With all this girl stuff going on, I have to get autistic son ready for homecoming and I feel under a lot of pressure. Hub told me just to chill out...lol. He's nice about it, but he doesn't understand girl wars.
I feel guilty being stressed out over such minor stuff when I know so many of you are under so much more pressure about more important things...
Last weekend, hub and I took the kids to an overnighter at a waterpark. easy child asked three friends to come with, and they paid $20 each to stay with us. The next day, my difficult child son wanted to go home early to ask his girlfriend to homecoming and hub didn't want to stay all day either because he wanted to watch the Packers play so we told the girls that we were going home early. However, they still had wrist bands and could stay for the rest of the day IF they all called their parents and their parents said it was ok. If not, we'd take the girls home with us and drop them off. All three girls said they called home.
One girl, I'll call her Sara, nodded with the other two that she had called home. We left and picked them all up at 5 and dropped them off at their various houses.
That night, Sara got into trouble because she hadn't called and (get this) her parents said WE were irresponsible for leaving them alone (they are 12, can swim, and I thought she'd called home). That ticked me off right then and I wanted to call them to set them straight, but easy child begged me not to call.
Yesterday, easy child started crying hysterically because Sara had left her a mean message on her computer. She'd told easy child that she was a horrible friend, called her all sorts of names, made up all sorts of lies and said she would tell everyone at school so that she'd have no friends. I had to talk down easy child and tell her that NOT everyone would believe her. Remember, this all started because Sara got into trouble for lying and obviously didn't tell her parents that she had told us she'd called home. The girl is being hateful to my daughter. BUT...she doesn't want me to call Sara's parents.
Now Sara's parents are not the most stable couple. They have split up and gotten together again. I just found out from easy child that they both drink too much and once, when easy child was sleeping over there, had left them alone until 3am. THAT ticked me off. At any rate, she won't be sleeping there anymore, but Sara is giving her such a hard time and easy child is sensitive. I have to exert all the willpower on earth not to call these parents and at least tell them the truth. easy child cries every time I mention calling them: "You'll make it even worse." Arrrrrrrrrrgh.
What would you do? And how to you help your kids through these times? My only other daughter did drugs at age 12 and I never went through the normal "mean girl" stuff with her. I had other things to worry about. While I'm glad I don't have those ugly issues with easy child, I am not sure how to handle this stuff. I never went through it as I would find one good friend every year--I hated the way crowds treated each other.
My daughter goes to a school where there are only fifteen girls in seventh grade, so she can't just mingle with others. All the girls are sort of intertwined. There are many three little groups. One has another "mean girl" in it. The other group she says are "geeks." I told her to hang with the geeks. She doesn't want to.
Can we say CRAZY?
With all this girl stuff going on, I have to get autistic son ready for homecoming and I feel under a lot of pressure. Hub told me just to chill out...lol. He's nice about it, but he doesn't understand girl wars.
I feel guilty being stressed out over such minor stuff when I know so many of you are under so much more pressure about more important things...