I am a mom to a 4 year old that I adore but I am really trying to figure out what is going on in his little mind. I made a list of observed behavior that I thouhgt I would post here and hopefully get some "I know what you are talking about replies" : ) I have always seen something a little different in him but I always just think he will get passed it and some days are just fine until the recent reports from daycare that he is being hurtful to others and defiant. I have honestly never seen him hit anyone, although I will not argue the defiant other than he knows what he wants and there is no talking him out of it so I do not usually battle. Here is my list: Hates getting a drop of water on his hands or clothes (this has intensified in the last couple months) Spends an extremely long time drying hands Needs the light in the hallway, and bathroom on and his bedroom door shut before going to the bathroom Waistband on underwear has to be just how he likes it Any activity with movement takes him a LONG time to calm down from when he gets wound up he seems like he is in a state of confusion, but yet happy. He cannot focus or listen when he is wound up. Likes to have things orderly, cars lined up, and books in order of size etc Does not like to be rubbed, caressed on any part of his body. Even as an infant he would move my hand away if I rubbed his arm while he was drinking a bottle. Has recently accepted back rubbing at bedtime and will ask for it, but not patting. Likes numbers, and letters –really into this between ages 1 and 2. He would go behind cars to read the license plates, point to numbers drawn on the fence and say the number, searched for numbers on a page. Number 5 he liked because he could turn it upside down and it was a 2. Notices shapes and patterns more than most, he tells me'that car is happy' by the way the grill looks, also 'some cars are mean'. Standing in line at a park he looked over and said there is a 'face in that tree' when I looked closely there was a resemblance of a face pattern in the bark. Going from the car into a store, someone's house, the park …. He starts making conditions, if I'm good and I listen and I do not touch anything, and I use an inside voice, and I stay next to the cart….. this can go on for a ridiculous amount of time, so much so I have seen people laugh at him while we are getting a cart and he is going over his list. Usually after he names them all he will say 'then I will get a water bottle'. Water bottles he likes more than candy, although he does not drink much. He likes making lists out loud. Modes of transportation- rooms in a house- people he knows Loves his friend who is 9 but usually plays beside her not with her. Loves his big brother and everything about him, is usually very well behaved with his brother. Cannot be gentle with his grandmas cat- he squeezes him, pulls tail gets in his face, lays his head on him. He has been warned 100's of times but still will not leave the cat alone. Takes 2 hours to fall asleep-although he does not get out of bed-mostly just talking, singing, counting. At school(daycare)- hits others, defiant, lacks self-control, lacks empathy (their list) Took him to play soccer, he loved the drills. When the coach said stand here, he never moved again until all the other kids were running around and the coach realized how literal he is. Also after the game he said 'I like when we line up and kick the ball but I do not like when everyone is running around.