everywoman
Well-Known Member
As you know pcdaughter is currently as basic. How in the world drama can surround her without her even being involved at all is unbelievable.
Now this is confusing, so bear with me...cause I just got to sort it all out for my own benefit.
Daughter "dated" a young man for about 9 months---it was a long distant relationship as he is about 20 hours away. He came down to visit about once a month. She met him through D who is my foster daughter's biobrother.
D and daughter are best friends. Have been for years. He introduced her to M. M seemed to be a nice guy---but moved too fast and before she went to basic, daughter broke up with him.
Several weeks ago, nostalgia must have taken hold and she wrote and asked for pictures---including ones of her and M. Apparently she also wrote M a letter. M called my niece (who she and M hung out with on his visits) and told her that he and daughter were back together. I really don't care either way, it is her life.
Here's the kicker. Cousin went to comment on his myspace page. He has as a top friend another girl from my very small hometown. She is the sister of D's finace. (okay I warned you this is confusing.) This is a girl who has gone after 3 or daughter's exbf's while daugther was dating them. There are some serious issues with my family and this girl.
Cousin called him back and he told her that he had been talking to another girl, but it wasn't serious. That he wants a relationship with daughter. Again---none of my business.
This has been going on for the past five days. M says other girl is stalker, obssessed and has hacked his page. Message keep appearing on other girls page from M stating he loves her---(Is this soap oprea enough for you) Cousin and Fosterdaughter are calling me all upset---
Last night I noticed his mom online. I contacted her and asked if she was aware of any of this and to maybe get some clarification so I could stop the madness before daughter gets home. She told me she didn't care. That it is none of our business. Now I feel stupid for contacting her.
I don't care about the relationship stuff....I do care if this guy is playing with my daughter's head when she is facing losing her dream and another surgery and long recovery. She doesn't need this drama on top of everything else.
I tried to explain that our family really likes M. If he and daughter don't date--it's not important---but he and his family are not from my town and I know who and what this girl is. She is a big drug addict. She has a 7 year old child who was taken from her. She goes from man to man trying to find someone to support her. She has no education. I know this because she also was with difficult child when he was using heavy drugs. She has caused a lot of problems with my daughter and my family in the past.
If you made it to here---Thanks----I'm still mad at myself and worried about daughter at the same time. I know I need to stay out of it---but I don't want things to escalate when daughter finally comes home.
Now this is confusing, so bear with me...cause I just got to sort it all out for my own benefit.
Daughter "dated" a young man for about 9 months---it was a long distant relationship as he is about 20 hours away. He came down to visit about once a month. She met him through D who is my foster daughter's biobrother.
D and daughter are best friends. Have been for years. He introduced her to M. M seemed to be a nice guy---but moved too fast and before she went to basic, daughter broke up with him.
Several weeks ago, nostalgia must have taken hold and she wrote and asked for pictures---including ones of her and M. Apparently she also wrote M a letter. M called my niece (who she and M hung out with on his visits) and told her that he and daughter were back together. I really don't care either way, it is her life.
Here's the kicker. Cousin went to comment on his myspace page. He has as a top friend another girl from my very small hometown. She is the sister of D's finace. (okay I warned you this is confusing.) This is a girl who has gone after 3 or daughter's exbf's while daugther was dating them. There are some serious issues with my family and this girl.
Cousin called him back and he told her that he had been talking to another girl, but it wasn't serious. That he wants a relationship with daughter. Again---none of my business.
This has been going on for the past five days. M says other girl is stalker, obssessed and has hacked his page. Message keep appearing on other girls page from M stating he loves her---(Is this soap oprea enough for you) Cousin and Fosterdaughter are calling me all upset---
Last night I noticed his mom online. I contacted her and asked if she was aware of any of this and to maybe get some clarification so I could stop the madness before daughter gets home. She told me she didn't care. That it is none of our business. Now I feel stupid for contacting her.
I don't care about the relationship stuff....I do care if this guy is playing with my daughter's head when she is facing losing her dream and another surgery and long recovery. She doesn't need this drama on top of everything else.
I tried to explain that our family really likes M. If he and daughter don't date--it's not important---but he and his family are not from my town and I know who and what this girl is. She is a big drug addict. She has a 7 year old child who was taken from her. She goes from man to man trying to find someone to support her. She has no education. I know this because she also was with difficult child when he was using heavy drugs. She has caused a lot of problems with my daughter and my family in the past.
If you made it to here---Thanks----I'm still mad at myself and worried about daughter at the same time. I know I need to stay out of it---but I don't want things to escalate when daughter finally comes home.
