TerryJ2
Well-Known Member
Remember when difficult child stole and used my credit card to renew his subscription to Xbox on Microsoft? There's more.
He bought 4000 credits to upgrade his war games. And today, all of a sudden, his game got cut off and flashed a renewal on the screen. I told him it was a ripoff and we'd already pd $49.99 for the renewal. He had a fit because he wanted to game NOW and husband and I told him to chill out while husband called the XBox people. (I didn't know it was owned by Microsoft but apparently it is.) husband was shocked to find out that the $49.99 was not for the renewal--that was $60. difficult child had lied and purchased points for an addt'l $49.99, and was kicked off when he told the employee his screen name: Weedsmoker.
You can't use drugs or sex or foul language as sign-in names or they kick you off!
husband said, "You know those people who used to light a cigar with-a $50 bill that we thought were so stupid? We just did that."
"This is ridiculous," difficult child said.
"This is what's called Natural Consequences," I said. (I love private companies! And natural consequences!!! difficult child knew it wasn't "our fault" this time.)
difficult child started to cry.
On top of it, that nice friend from his former school who he started hanging out with-this past weekend?
Her dad called tonight, totally angry and nearly out of control. Turns out his perfect 15-yr-old daughter took a photo of her bare breasts and sent it to difficult child's phone.
Here I was, saying online, "I can't wait until he breaks up with-his girlfriend. This new one is so normal!"
NOT.
Turns out that his girlfriend, the cutter with-anxiety issues, is the so-called honorable one, and this other friend is "a freak."
"Do you know what a freak is?" difficult child asked us?
"NO" we both said, knowing that his definition is not the same as ours.
"Basically, she's a ho."
"So you went over to her house knowing that?"
"I didn't do anything!" he shouted.
He told us that her dad was home, and that he could be there from noon until 5:00 p.m. husband drove him--45 min in another city--and never went to the door. Oops.
He did meet S, who smiles, looks you in the eye, has no tattoos, stands up straight, says Please and Thank you and all the right things. She went to private school with-difficult child 2 yrs ago. She lives in a wonderful house in wonderful neighborhood.
When I drove to pick him up, I got lost and was nearly 1/2 hr late. difficult child called, asking where I was. Their development has a very common name and I wove in and out of every cul-de-sac within a 6 mi radius.
When I got to the house, they came to the door and she seemed so normal and cute, had on a cute sun dress, was very polite. I did think it was odd that difficult child, who is normally very shy and restrained, gave her a hug and a kiss, right in front of me. He has talked toher on the ph and FB at a friend's house (he does not have computer privileges at home) but wow, that was pretty familiar for not seeing one another for so long.
And where was the dad?
Now I know that the reason there was a time constraint was not that the parents had asked him to leave by dinnertime, but that the dad was coming home and S had planned this out behind his back. Her mom was out of town, which we did not know, and supposedly, her sister was home. But she apparently spent the whole time in her room, ignoring them.
I am hoping that it was only a boob shot and nothing more.
So we got on difficult child's case, and told him that he was cheating on his girlfriend, and asked him what he would do if she saw the picture. He showed us the picture, and showed us the texts back and forth. "What do you think?" "Makes me want you." (Uh duh!)
He saw her on Saturday. The picture was sent Mon.
S's dad said that difficult child is never to speak to her again. husband said fine, we completely understand. He said S's dad was almost crying on the phone. Obviously, he took her phone away.
So, this a.m., I got a text from difficult child. "Good luck. I hope your colonoscopy goes smoothly."
WOW! I asked husband how much he had to pay difficult child to do that. He had no idea he had done it. Plus, everything was perfectly grammatical and there were no abbreviations. "What did you say to scare him?"
"I told him that you were going to have a procedure done in the hospital and that you were going to be groggy and to leave you alone."
He bought a huge Godiva choc bar today and snuck it to difficult child to give me "as an early Mother's Day present." Very cute. I thanked difficult child and all was going very well.
Plus, today difficult child worked through lunch with-his science teacher and got caught up on two assignments, and stayed after school and worked with-the Spanish teacher and the math teacher. He is behind on everything ... his brain just doesn't "get" that if he pd attention in class, he wouldn't have to stay after. Anyway, he texted me about it and asked if it was okay to split the time and I said yes.
And then we get the Xbox issue, and 3 hrs later, the call from the dad.
So, all of you with-experience in these matters, does this escalate? I'm thinking that if S's dad hadn't caught them, that the next time we dropped off difficult child, they'd have been at it like bunnies. And if Xbox hadn't cut off difficult child for using drug terminology, we would have gone our merry way for a cpl more months.
We just can't seem to keep up with-him! I really, really want to send him to an all-male boarding school or military place but I don't have the money. He's a walking catastrophe.
He bought 4000 credits to upgrade his war games. And today, all of a sudden, his game got cut off and flashed a renewal on the screen. I told him it was a ripoff and we'd already pd $49.99 for the renewal. He had a fit because he wanted to game NOW and husband and I told him to chill out while husband called the XBox people. (I didn't know it was owned by Microsoft but apparently it is.) husband was shocked to find out that the $49.99 was not for the renewal--that was $60. difficult child had lied and purchased points for an addt'l $49.99, and was kicked off when he told the employee his screen name: Weedsmoker.
You can't use drugs or sex or foul language as sign-in names or they kick you off!
husband said, "You know those people who used to light a cigar with-a $50 bill that we thought were so stupid? We just did that."
"This is ridiculous," difficult child said.
"This is what's called Natural Consequences," I said. (I love private companies! And natural consequences!!! difficult child knew it wasn't "our fault" this time.)
difficult child started to cry.
On top of it, that nice friend from his former school who he started hanging out with-this past weekend?
Her dad called tonight, totally angry and nearly out of control. Turns out his perfect 15-yr-old daughter took a photo of her bare breasts and sent it to difficult child's phone.
Here I was, saying online, "I can't wait until he breaks up with-his girlfriend. This new one is so normal!"
NOT.
Turns out that his girlfriend, the cutter with-anxiety issues, is the so-called honorable one, and this other friend is "a freak."
"Do you know what a freak is?" difficult child asked us?
"NO" we both said, knowing that his definition is not the same as ours.
"Basically, she's a ho."
"So you went over to her house knowing that?"
"I didn't do anything!" he shouted.
He told us that her dad was home, and that he could be there from noon until 5:00 p.m. husband drove him--45 min in another city--and never went to the door. Oops.
He did meet S, who smiles, looks you in the eye, has no tattoos, stands up straight, says Please and Thank you and all the right things. She went to private school with-difficult child 2 yrs ago. She lives in a wonderful house in wonderful neighborhood.
When I drove to pick him up, I got lost and was nearly 1/2 hr late. difficult child called, asking where I was. Their development has a very common name and I wove in and out of every cul-de-sac within a 6 mi radius.
When I got to the house, they came to the door and she seemed so normal and cute, had on a cute sun dress, was very polite. I did think it was odd that difficult child, who is normally very shy and restrained, gave her a hug and a kiss, right in front of me. He has talked toher on the ph and FB at a friend's house (he does not have computer privileges at home) but wow, that was pretty familiar for not seeing one another for so long.
And where was the dad?
Now I know that the reason there was a time constraint was not that the parents had asked him to leave by dinnertime, but that the dad was coming home and S had planned this out behind his back. Her mom was out of town, which we did not know, and supposedly, her sister was home. But she apparently spent the whole time in her room, ignoring them.
I am hoping that it was only a boob shot and nothing more.
So we got on difficult child's case, and told him that he was cheating on his girlfriend, and asked him what he would do if she saw the picture. He showed us the picture, and showed us the texts back and forth. "What do you think?" "Makes me want you." (Uh duh!)
He saw her on Saturday. The picture was sent Mon.
S's dad said that difficult child is never to speak to her again. husband said fine, we completely understand. He said S's dad was almost crying on the phone. Obviously, he took her phone away.
So, this a.m., I got a text from difficult child. "Good luck. I hope your colonoscopy goes smoothly."
WOW! I asked husband how much he had to pay difficult child to do that. He had no idea he had done it. Plus, everything was perfectly grammatical and there were no abbreviations. "What did you say to scare him?"
"I told him that you were going to have a procedure done in the hospital and that you were going to be groggy and to leave you alone."
He bought a huge Godiva choc bar today and snuck it to difficult child to give me "as an early Mother's Day present." Very cute. I thanked difficult child and all was going very well.
Plus, today difficult child worked through lunch with-his science teacher and got caught up on two assignments, and stayed after school and worked with-the Spanish teacher and the math teacher. He is behind on everything ... his brain just doesn't "get" that if he pd attention in class, he wouldn't have to stay after. Anyway, he texted me about it and asked if it was okay to split the time and I said yes.
And then we get the Xbox issue, and 3 hrs later, the call from the dad.
So, all of you with-experience in these matters, does this escalate? I'm thinking that if S's dad hadn't caught them, that the next time we dropped off difficult child, they'd have been at it like bunnies. And if Xbox hadn't cut off difficult child for using drug terminology, we would have gone our merry way for a cpl more months.
We just can't seem to keep up with-him! I really, really want to send him to an all-male boarding school or military place but I don't have the money. He's a walking catastrophe.
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