Charged with assault... He is in Chicago and was watching his Alma Matre KU at his friends Bar... well last thing I said to him was please be careful and don't get stupid... I did not hear from him this morning, which I usaully do, he was suposed to be at work... so I called his cell, turned off. My Mommy gut was a bit worried. Well about 11am my time he calls sobbing, he just got out of the hospital and was charged with assault... all he can remember is leaving the bar, taking a cab waking up in the hospital with 2 cops screaming over him and a huge gash under his eye and one on the back of his head... he was arrested and cherged with assault. He has no idea who he assualted or if he was jumped, I believe his wallet is gone... I am so sickened right now, I had to call his p's to help him get a lawyer, he is so out of it he can't think straight... I am waiting to find out if his wallet is gone? I remained calm on the phone, but as soon as I hung up it was like a flood of emotions. I grew up in such an alcoholic family and husband has had a few issues in the past and we have tried to address them honestly and openly, he can not drink by himself, i.e. with the boys, he does not know how to stop. When I am around he is fine... he struggles with this and has for years. The other thing is we have been having discussions about him talking about maybe taking something for depression, he keeps saying well if I exercise more I will feel better... but I said well this has been going on for awhile, he is struggling with the idea of trying ti fix this family and hates himself because he feels like he can't do anything to help us or the girls. SO he sabotages himslef... He is the kindest sweetest most giving man in the world... but he is STUPID when it comes to alcohol and escaping... I am so frustrated right now I feel like I am the only one holding this family together, what am I supposed to do??? The girls know something is up... I am trying to be extra "happy". He is supposed to come home Sunday night , no ID. He already misplaced his Passport, I have been on him about that. It is somewhere in Chicago. I told him to stay until he figures it out... Luckily my dear friend had been planning on coming up with her 2 girls and spending the night, they have not been up here since before Christmas, She is someone I can cry to. Her and you guy's are all I have. WTF... I could scream and cry... I don't need this, we don't need this... The funny thing is I am re-reading "The Bipolar Child" and last night I was reading the section on families with multiple g'sfg... I think I have all 4 of us at this point!!! UGH!!!