Well I let difficult child 1 go to school this morning so she would not think about doctor apt. She is getting sick of the apts. I am single Mom this week, so I had difficult child 2 as well. I had called and asked if they could give her the Emla prior... they acted at first like why would she need that? I then explained that her anxiety, her likelihood of numerous bloodwork throughout life etc... I would like to make the first one as little of an upsetting experience as possible, oh they got it. DUH. So we went an hour early, in the future if we ned lots of bood work they will give us our own Emla, got the Emla, nurse told difficult child that it was like frosting, but don't eat it. So in the car difficult child said afterwards, "where is my frosting?" I then explained to her that the nurse was trying to make her laugh, she said "well that is not very funny when it isn't frosting, why would she kid with me about something that wasn't true?" I had to go on about trying to make a person feel better and all that, she wasn't buying it!!! So on the way back, she started amping up when reality hit her... started crying, screaming, kicking the backseat, undid her seat belt, luckily we were only about 3 blocks from docs, climbed into the back of minivan, and started screaming take me home... I ended up having to drag her out with difficult child 2 hanging on me, carry my 55pound difficult child 1, with difficult child 2 hanging on me into the doctor's office!!! I walk in and say "Um we are not doing well". difficult child 1 was screaming, I kind of laughed as I said it. They got us into the room, and I was able to talk her down and give her some gum, then a sucker, rub her back, lots of hugs, I told her, pediatrician told me she knew she was brave and she was so excited to see how brave she could be... Finally pediatrician came in after 15minutes of this, seemed like forever, difficult child took the blood draw, didn't cry was totally calm giggled and was a total champ!!! I was so proud of her. The pediatrician did a great job! difficult child 1 is going to be OK for next time I think, hope!!!