Has anyone had experience with severe perfectionism in their children? My son has High-Functioning Autism (HFA)+ADHD. He is on Tenex (guanfacine) .5 mg/day -- he JUST started this medication a few days ago. The reason I finally decided to do medications was because of his extreme anxiety about making mistakes, leading to severe meltdowns. He's fine at school (first grade, mainstream class with supports) but it's at home and other situations that are very difficult. He is a gifted violinist (my family of origin has been musicians for generations and I'm a former opera singer), but he is terrified of learning new pieces because of course there will be mistakes in them. And he gets these Aspeger's rages when he makes a mistake OR when he's corrected. It's made the violin situation unbearable both in lessons and in his daily practicing. BUT he doesn't want to quit, and won't switch to a different instrument either. Violin is one of the hardest instruments to learn but he decided on it when he was two and he is single-minded in that Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) way. He responds well to children's books about difficult childhood situations, but I haven't found one that addresses this issue yet. He has some social stories written by me and his home-visitor social worker but that hasn't helped either. He intellectually knows self-calming techniques but cannot use them independently. Any advice would be appreciated!