so i want to say i really appreciate all of your support, ideas, thoughts, advice on my easy child as of late.
So, I think to some extent it is "typical teenage" behavior yet on another level there is such a thing as crossing the line. Each line is draw different I think for each parent. We all have our rules in place, yes with our difficult child's we have to tweek and change and use various approachs. Yet our easy child's we can go with our "standard" way of parenting, whatever that is for each of us i think. So, my daughter def crossed the line. She knows the rules, was reminded that night of the rules repeatedly. Her behaviors obviously have worsened since 7th grade. It is a natural downhill slide as far as I see it. Had it been one random act suddenly I wouldn't be so upset, yet it's been a natural progression for her.
I cannot afford boarding school, if i could she'd be going. Not because she chose to have a boy here and do things with him (i soo dont' want to get into what those things were again.....yuck) against our rules that she is to have no one in our home when we are not here. It is because she lied, manipulated for days prior, has lied, stolen in the past, manipulated and played me like a violin. She really has.
So, i'm looking into a few different things as far as making her donate her time to either local nursing homes once a week, or schools for special needs children. I"m also removing everything from her room except her bed and clothes, enrolling her in a teenage therapy group (i'm currently searching for one), and hiring a sitter for her. so that i'm not in lock down mode on the days i need to go out and difficult child is either not here or with me. We are going to sit down with-both her and the boyfriend and basically threaten their lives to be honest. Inform them they are not to be alone together only when I am home can he come over.
Those are just a few to start with. I took some ideas from the posts that everyone jumped on and thanks for the ideas. That's just the basic's of it for now.
The way I see it I've let her manipulate me long enough, this was a wake up call. So, it's a good thing..... yup lemon into lemonade thing lol.
anyway if i've missed anything, please fill me in
So, I think to some extent it is "typical teenage" behavior yet on another level there is such a thing as crossing the line. Each line is draw different I think for each parent. We all have our rules in place, yes with our difficult child's we have to tweek and change and use various approachs. Yet our easy child's we can go with our "standard" way of parenting, whatever that is for each of us i think. So, my daughter def crossed the line. She knows the rules, was reminded that night of the rules repeatedly. Her behaviors obviously have worsened since 7th grade. It is a natural downhill slide as far as I see it. Had it been one random act suddenly I wouldn't be so upset, yet it's been a natural progression for her.
I cannot afford boarding school, if i could she'd be going. Not because she chose to have a boy here and do things with him (i soo dont' want to get into what those things were again.....yuck) against our rules that she is to have no one in our home when we are not here. It is because she lied, manipulated for days prior, has lied, stolen in the past, manipulated and played me like a violin. She really has.
So, i'm looking into a few different things as far as making her donate her time to either local nursing homes once a week, or schools for special needs children. I"m also removing everything from her room except her bed and clothes, enrolling her in a teenage therapy group (i'm currently searching for one), and hiring a sitter for her. so that i'm not in lock down mode on the days i need to go out and difficult child is either not here or with me. We are going to sit down with-both her and the boyfriend and basically threaten their lives to be honest. Inform them they are not to be alone together only when I am home can he come over.
Those are just a few to start with. I took some ideas from the posts that everyone jumped on and thanks for the ideas. That's just the basic's of it for now.
The way I see it I've let her manipulate me long enough, this was a wake up call. So, it's a good thing..... yup lemon into lemonade thing lol.
anyway if i've missed anything, please fill me in