today we got an email that my high school age son is failing English. He already failed math and will need to retake it next year. I calmly informed him that he is failing English (he is well aware) and told him that if he doesn't fix it that he will not graduate on time and will not be academically eligible for sports next fall. Of course I want him to graduate, but I don't NEED him to graduate. I have my diploma and a job. I don't need him to graduate to be able to support myself, but he will need to graduate to help support himself. I was calm. I was factual and then I walked away. This is something I am working on. It's difficult for me to watch him waste his intelligence (he is very smart), but I'm not getting wrapped up in his issues.