BusynMember
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A short blurb of back story: I have a very social thirteen year old daughter with Learning Disability (LD)'s (she struggles to get C's with help). She is athletic and beautiful and has always been extremely busy with her friends. Until recently I couldn't keep her home. Also, in Wisconsin you can choose to send your child to a school district that is out of your own, if you provide transportation. My daughter wanted to go to a bigger middle school so we said it would be ok. We are going to drive her and pick her up. She has a lot of friends there (or did) and there are more opportunities academically and athletically, but also more "bad element." Our own district is tiny, mayb 30 kids in her grade. They have more help for Learning Disability (LD) kids in the other district and also more options for classes. And that school is huge in sports.
So here's the problem:
This summer my daughter is pretty much hanging out at home. A lot of the girls (and boys) she used to love to hang out with are just not in the picture. She claims nobody is angry at her and gets angry when I ask about it. I do know that one of the boys she once hung around with is getting high, so maybe some of the kids are doing things that she doesn't want to get involved with? I don't know if this is true. It's my Mommy mind going nuts. I'm not sure if she'd tell me if I asked her because she knows I'm nervous about the switch to a big school. And if she does tell me that her friends aren't in trouble, why isn't she hanging with them anymore? She told my hub about this boy and was very critical of him.
I don't want to paint a gloomy picture. She does do things, especially with a classmate who lives a block away. But she seems to be avoiding almost everyone else. If I ask her about it she gets mad and says I'm "annoying." She says nothing is wrong. Should I enjoy it for now and forget about it? I think it would be less an issue if she wasn't switching schools in the fall. She is very well-known at the school she'll be going to, but if a lot of her "friends" have changed and are now doing drugs or having sex, two things I am positive she is not doing at this time, it makes me wonder if I should send her.
But she wants to still go, and hasn't done anything to breech our trust.
I can't wait until my last two kids are grown up. I'm really too old to still be parenting. I should be just taking care of my dogs and hanging out with hub. Parenting is so stressful.
So here's the problem:
This summer my daughter is pretty much hanging out at home. A lot of the girls (and boys) she used to love to hang out with are just not in the picture. She claims nobody is angry at her and gets angry when I ask about it. I do know that one of the boys she once hung around with is getting high, so maybe some of the kids are doing things that she doesn't want to get involved with? I don't know if this is true. It's my Mommy mind going nuts. I'm not sure if she'd tell me if I asked her because she knows I'm nervous about the switch to a big school. And if she does tell me that her friends aren't in trouble, why isn't she hanging with them anymore? She told my hub about this boy and was very critical of him.
I don't want to paint a gloomy picture. She does do things, especially with a classmate who lives a block away. But she seems to be avoiding almost everyone else. If I ask her about it she gets mad and says I'm "annoying." She says nothing is wrong. Should I enjoy it for now and forget about it? I think it would be less an issue if she wasn't switching schools in the fall. She is very well-known at the school she'll be going to, but if a lot of her "friends" have changed and are now doing drugs or having sex, two things I am positive she is not doing at this time, it makes me wonder if I should send her.
But she wants to still go, and hasn't done anything to breech our trust.
I can't wait until my last two kids are grown up. I'm really too old to still be parenting. I should be just taking care of my dogs and hanging out with hub. Parenting is so stressful.