For those of you tht might remember me,its been a long time. I am sorry that I haven't posted anything earlier but I really haven't been handling things well for myself. I have been drinnking alot and sleeping alot,missing fun activites with friends and family because I just can't keep it together. my difficult child came home after finally getting kicked out of the system while they "wait fo rhim to screw up as an adult" because it is not their problem anymore. He has moved in and out of our house as his friends and girlfriends family take him in then figure out the real difficult child. He has his ups and downs as usual but I really don't know what to now. His room his trashed AGAIN--the bathroom is disgusting AGAIN- he has so many dirty dishes in both places that we dont have glasses to drink out of, bowls to eat out of or silverware to use, and when I say something he says don't worry about. Then our oldest son HAD to come home because he has burned all his bridges and had no where else to go. He was in a realationship with a wonderful girl and had just gotten a great job with pepsi and had been promised a huge advancement in that job until he went to lunch one day and never went back, was living with the girlfriends parents and lying to them that he wasa going to work every night (he worked graveyard to get his foot in the door)then sleep for a little while and leaving for the day . Then was hiding from he girlfriend because she found out he was NOT working but was selling pot. They had put her brothers car in there name to use because he is in the service and going to be deployed for over a year and he was bing nice to his sister but the day they went she could not be there so they put the car in my sons name (they were talking about getting married)but he left that day and took the car. He was hiding out at his grandmothers for a while but things finally caught up with him so he asked if he could come home and I said ok and we paid for a bus ticket. Now difficult child is acting like he rules the roost and oldest son is pushing him to do stuff. Not following our rules and staying out all night. They are both over 18 and I have told them they can come and go with respect to us as to let us know where they are and NOT coming in at all hours of the night --if they are going to be out late then make arrangments to stay there not come home and wake me up when I have to go to work and then they sleep all day. difficult child WAS working but not now and oldest has been here three weeks and isn't even bothering to look. They "snuck" out last night and we have not heard from them at all today. Advise on what the heck to do--both have already burned all the bridges and really have NO where else to go. HELP!!!!