I posted on my previous thread yesterday that I had to call difficult child's guidance counsellor and the people he is living with to let them know he said he'd been cutting. The guidance counsellor and the psychiatric nurse on the hotline I called both thought it was more attention seeking than worrisome but we all felt it still had to be taken seriously. So difficult child was pretty mad that I called girlfriend's family (that's where he is living). I offered him counselling and he adamantly refused stating that he didn't need it. All he needed was for me to admit that I had abused him. Said that he didn't need to learn coping skills because he'd never experience anything as bad as the abuse he suffered. Huh? So I told him at that point that I would no longer discuss this with him unless we were in front of a counsellor. I told him we'd have to stick to talking about day to day life things instead. A few hours later I get an email saying... sorry I can't go to counselling on Wednesday, I have a field trip. Not sure if he was rubbing in that I'd paid for that trip (and it's to a play that I really want to see) or if he was being genuine. Then last night I get another email - hey, can we rebook that counselling session? I'd like to go with you but not dad at this point. So I said sure, I'd book something and let him know. So, in the last 2 weeks here is a recap of this difficult child's behaviour: 1) April 2 - Went ballistic - intimidating, screaming, yelling, telling us to f off etc. because I grounded him from Facebook for 1 night. Only because I tried to discuss the pornographic and crude content of his FB and he kept laughing and saying it was funny. Goes to girlfriends and won't speak to us until April 7 2) April 7 - Came home, packed his things, demanded expensive items and money and left. 3) April 10 - Refuses to speak to his father or even be in the same room with him and refuses counselling in front of guidance counsellors at school. Tells me he would move home if dad was gone because he wants to me around me and his sister and wants us to pay his bills and buy him things. 4) April 12 - Agrees to meet his father and I for coffee. Have a great meeting, civilized, friendly, even joking around at one point, thought we worked through a lot of feelings and made some progress. Agrees to go to counselling. We drop him and his girlfriend off at her house afterwards and he hugs us BOTH goodbye. 5) April 13 - I get a very curt, short email in response to a friendly email I send him. 6) April 15(Sunday) - Calls and asks if we can meet him for coffee. Has slept all day (it's 3pm) and is hungry so we buy him food. Gets angry and belligerent when we try to discuss some things with him. We wanted to know what he might be willing to change/work on to address his part in the problems. Yells at us, causes a scene and walks out. 7) A couple of hours later I get an email stating IF he comes home this will have to be a group effort and we will have to admit what we did wrong. So I sent him an email in response detailing everything that we have agreed to do to make this situation better, everything I am trying to do to help him succeed (offered him help with schoolwork), etc. Admitting again that we have made mistakes etc.. 8) Late that night I get another email referring to husband by his first name because he no longer qualifies as Dad and accusing both of us of verbal, physical, emotional and mental abuse. Originally he was only mad at husband because he thought husband had physically abused him because he has had to restrain him on 3 different occasions in the last 6 months. Now we are both abusive? And tells me he is cutting 9) (Monday) Again refuses to go to any type of counselling, even individual.This is after I called girlfriend's parents and advised them he was cutting - which he says he hasn't done in over a month. Confuses me because he is in serious crisis right now and have been for the last month but he's no longer cutting? I offered him every avenue so he couldn't make up an excuse - just outright refused and is yelling at me on the phone about how much abuse he has suffered - then hangs up. 10) Emails me late last night and says he'll go to counselling with me but not with Dad (back to calling him Dad) at this point. Does this sound like possible emerging mental health issues to anyone? Or just a teenager who doesn't know whether he's coming or going? Literally.