My Son had a very bad summer, well a really bad past year, but this summer he wen inpatient at Children's for depression. Once he got out things seemed to be getting back on track and he started dating "C". Then he started slipping back. Not because of "C" because he is a stubborn child who wanted to be mad at his parents After two attempts to hurt himself,in August I called the police and forced him back into the hospital, where after he attended a partial program for sometime. It is taking sometime and a lot of ups and downs but I have seen more of the "old" Son since that program. Here is where things get tricky for me. He decided to break up with "C". She also has problems with depression and has attempted to hurt herself a couple of times. So she is very sad about the break up. Since they didn't date long, and I was focused on trying to get Son better I did not know much about "C". I knew her parents were divorced, she lived with her mom and her mom's current boyfriend and sees her dad a couple times a week. I knew that because of the attempts to hurt herself she was not suppose to be left home alone and a couple times Son had called about curfew since her mom had not come home on time. I know a couple time Son stayed the night at the house because the mom was out so late I did not want him driving at 3 or 4 in the morning. Since they broke up she has called me because she feels so alone now. What I did not know is that her mom goes out drinking at night and the 4 in the morning thing is a normal occurrence. Now that Son isn't around to stay with her the mom is upset because this interferes with her going out. Her dad will not let her come live at his house because she does not get along with her dad's girlfriends son. Before I learned this I talked with the mom and said that I thought the PHP program would be good for "C" too, but I have a feeling that the mom was not going for it. Now I am unsure what to do.. I have a sweet girl who feels all alone, by what she has told me is alone and has no one she counts on and that is why she wants to hang on to Son. On the other I have a son who seems to want to move on, and I don't think she will do that if I continue to let her come to me when she needs someone. At the same time I can not just back away because I am afraid she is all alone and I am afraid of what will happen if I am not there for her. I do not know how to proceed. I was wondering if you could give me any advice or insight.