On Fathers Day we went out as a family with difficult child. Things he told us about his life in general, sounded very nice, but when I asked him a specific question he changed everything all around, and it was appparent ....all BS, as usual. I however didn't go to bat with it. I just smiled and nodded. He has a girlfriend-or something- who has 3 kids, and their father is in jail doing 2-4 years. Lovely. The issue for me, which I feel really bad about, I have been so sad and over the top upset about is that difficult child has gained at least 150 pounds since he lived here. He, I'm sure, is close to 350 pounds. Growing up difficult child had an insatiable appetite. We fed him healthy. He was in shape and weighed 195 when he graduated HS 2 years ago, stilll a little heavy, but fine. He was working out with the Marines and everythinbg was fine. We would always find wrappers of stuff in his room. Not the normal stuff, but packages of cheese- 2 pound bricks that I never bought so he must have, and packages of cheese dogs( I didn't buy this) that he ate without cooking (The whole package at once)stuff like this,....but lots, and lots of wrappers like this....in every computer game box, everywhere he could (I don't know where he got the money to buy this because it was nothing we had here).by the way my kids can have anything they want to eat. difficult child was the only one that I had to say, wait until dinner or something because he did eat tooo much. Anyway we found all these wrappers one day- but 6 months ago husband went into the attic, the opening was in difficult child's closet, and husband found garbage and wrappers right over difficult children room. We filled up 2 bags with his trash. 2 big bags. It was like his drug. So I'm sad. Why did he do this to himself? I myself am thin, my easy child -normal, husband a little heavy- he has to lose 60 pounds but he's fine in my eyes, but difficult child-over the top. He's so young!