I am having a "mommmy melt down"day...How the heck do we do this???????? I am absolutley at a LOW. my daughter is bipolar...I have done all the normal things we all do... set boundaries, enforce boundaries, nuture, take away privledges, give back privledges when I see fit....etc. What I want to know is....IS SELFISHNESS a part of bipolar or is that a "spoiled child". My story this time is: child goes to her fathers, calling me immediately on how unhappy she is..but she wants to stay cause she has a boyfriend there she might get to see. Meanwhile, her 5th cellphone this year breaks...and while she has no phone privledges I allow her to have the cell to call me in case of a "meltdown" since I am allegedly her safe one. So my son takes her my cellphone. While she is there she uses the phone unlimited to call everyone and their brother till all hours of the night. When I pick her up, she basically hated her time at dads and tells me all the things he said and did. We get home and I want my cell back... THATS WHERE THINGS GET BLURRED. she is angry cause now she wont have one for an emergency...etc. I am working on fixing hers (which i finally do)while she is melting down. I get her to go to her room finally... I go on to do other things (cause see, I do have other things to do besides deal with her constant ..I have another child, a house..etc). She comes up to me..I tell her that we can talk tomorrow that i have deadlines and she says ..I just need to tell you one thing...and you wont like it.... "i want to go and live with dad, cause i think that is the only way you and i are going to have a relationship...". I say okay. She says can I call my dad. Well earlier I had taken her phone privledge and I really didnt think at 9pm she needed to call her dad. I said no. She went and got the phone and I took it and told her she could call tomorrow. I am back working again..I hear her and my son fighting..she wants a phone to call..etc. I go in there and I am told she hates me, I am a liar, etc. I finally let her call her father, who of course isnt offering to come get her. Basically in his head this is all my fault, if he had got her in the divorce (you know that prize) she wouldnt be this way ..of course right now he aint saying that. HOW MANY TIMES DO I HAVE TO HEAR I HATE YOU...BEFORE MY HEART JUST SOLIDIFIES AND I FEEL NOTHING? Truth is, my daughter wants to live with her father because of a boy...she is 13 by the way...she hates it there...and I really dont care anymore. But I cant force him to take her. So I am left here with a child that hates me and wants this wonderful father who doesnt want her on a fulltime basis. I am going to call the dr and see about upping her medications... maybe get her some relief from herself...but will the medications help>>> is what shes experiencing a symptom of bipolar or spoiled brat? I dont like to say this..but after not sleeping all night... and thinking...my life would be so much easier to be the part time parent who only has to deal with this every other weekend (unless i can come up with good excuses like he does not to see her)...I might could have a life... BUT THE OTHER SIDE OF ME SAYS...i have built my life around my kids..I will miss her horribly...so...if you have something to say ..please say it... I could use something ..just not sure what.... I think a xanax or a valium would help...just kidding.