Shari
IsItFridayYet?
ExMIL just called. They are having their family Christmas tonight.
Now, for all the years prior to DEX's whack job girlfriend, we all went tothe family Christmas and we all (DEX included) had a good time. When Whack Job came into the picture, she wanted me out. So DEX told his family "her (meaning me) or us (meaning he and his girlfriend)" and his mom replied that girlfriend doesn't call the shots. So, eventually, DEX started saying HE didn't want me at the family gatherings. Last Christmas, exMIL just told him tough cookies, she's coming. When difficult child 1 was home, he didn't want to go to DEX's house, so he invited DEX here. DEX came and they had a good visit. Whack job didnt come, but DEX did and enjyed it. So i know its not dex's problem.
So back to tonight. DEX doesn't want us there. So exMIL asked if Wee could come. And I'm not sure what to do. I dont want to not let Wee go and keep him from them. I also know that DEX and Whack Job girlfriend are behind this, and they have NOTHING positive (and mostly nothing, other than Whack Job attempted to establish herself as Wee's "new mom" and his "new family") to do with Wee the rest of the time....so why should we change what has worked for so long to accommodate them? And if I do, it will never change...
So...should I let Wee go, or keep him home? (PS - we do have dinner plans tonight already with friends...plus, Wee sees DEX's family all the time...we are all very close...so its not like he'd be missing his only chance to see them...)
Now, for all the years prior to DEX's whack job girlfriend, we all went tothe family Christmas and we all (DEX included) had a good time. When Whack Job came into the picture, she wanted me out. So DEX told his family "her (meaning me) or us (meaning he and his girlfriend)" and his mom replied that girlfriend doesn't call the shots. So, eventually, DEX started saying HE didn't want me at the family gatherings. Last Christmas, exMIL just told him tough cookies, she's coming. When difficult child 1 was home, he didn't want to go to DEX's house, so he invited DEX here. DEX came and they had a good visit. Whack job didnt come, but DEX did and enjyed it. So i know its not dex's problem.
So back to tonight. DEX doesn't want us there. So exMIL asked if Wee could come. And I'm not sure what to do. I dont want to not let Wee go and keep him from them. I also know that DEX and Whack Job girlfriend are behind this, and they have NOTHING positive (and mostly nothing, other than Whack Job attempted to establish herself as Wee's "new mom" and his "new family") to do with Wee the rest of the time....so why should we change what has worked for so long to accommodate them? And if I do, it will never change...
So...should I let Wee go, or keep him home? (PS - we do have dinner plans tonight already with friends...plus, Wee sees DEX's family all the time...we are all very close...so its not like he'd be missing his only chance to see them...)
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