The situation with my sister (posted in Watercooler) has made me very worried about my fifteen year old beautiful, brilliant, athletic total easy child 15 year old niece, who is one of a twin set. I didn't have much luck with my sister seeing that this wonderful child may have a problem even when we were on good terms, but now we aren't, and I need to throw out there what the situation is, and ask you what you'd do. I'm afraid that if I make waves, my sister will think I am trying to get back at her for calling the cops on me for no reason (again, see Watercooler)...lol. Ok, my sister has a history of anorexia/bulemia. She still worries too much about her body. She's 46, 5'4 and weighs 107 lbs. and looks very very skinny, however, if she really weighs 107, she is no longer NOT eating. But she worries about every buldge she gets (and she doesn't have any), and has always worried that her girls wouldn't be tall enough or thin enough. Her twins are exceptional girls, gifted students, great manners, friendly, beautiful, dream kids (she doesn't deserve them...lol). Because of my on again/off again relationship with my sister (for three years she refused to speak to me and would call the police whenever I tried to find out why), I never got to be a close aunt to them. However, we had a period of about two years where me and my sister actually did keep in close touch and this is the story of A. A. is fifteen, five foot four, and runs three miles every morning, on top of chairing a running club for her school. She is also in traveling soccer and never sits still. My sister told me a few things that alarmed me, and I alluded to possibly checking her for anorexia, but maybe I'm being too worried because my sister had an eating disorder. I asked my sister if she had any old clothes that my ten year old may be able to wear. Nicole is pretty big for her age. She is in size 14s. My sister said, (I am paraphrasing), "No. I can't give you any pants because A. can still fit into a size 12 little girl's). Then she told me that A. wears 75 lbs. She is five four and weighs 75 lbs. My daughter is ten and weighs 103 and is only five feet tall and thin. On another day, my sister told me that A. hasn't had her period in over a year. She asked the pediatrician about it and he blew it off saying that very active girls (and this one is certainly very active) often don't have periods. I mentioned gently that maybe she is anorexic or excerising too much and my sister cut me off, saying, no way, she eats, she's just active. And maybe she is!!!! But I think about her a lot and shudder at how she must look without bulky clothes. My sister also alarmed me about her other daughter who is very well-adjusted. I'll call her K. K. is an avid dancer, does it five days a week, but is a normal height and weight--or looks normal--5'6 and 115 lbs. My sister said, "Her dancing teacher says she'd get better parts if she lost weight." I told her I thought that was a dangerous thing to say and my sister shrugged and said, "K. could lose ten pounds and it would be all right." I'm afraid she'll tell K. to go on a diet. The girl is NOT overweight. She is thin, but stocky, like her father--a little bigger boned, but in fantastic shape and a beautiful child. I keep telling myself that my only way to see if A. needs interventions is to call CPS, who I hate, because my sister not only won't listen to me; she'll call the cops because I contacted her. Yes, she calls the cops if I call her--she is notorious in my small town for calling our three cops...lol. But it's not funny. I don't know if I should just let it go and forget about it or do something. I have no knowledge if A. really has anorexia. I think she has huge red flags for it, but this is one disorder I never suffered from and maybe my sister is right and very active girls do skip their periods. My sister is actually an excellent mom who really cares about her kids, but I'm afraid that her own fear of being overweight is making her non-objective about her girls. What would YOU guys do? We are on terrible terms and will probably remain on terrible terms because I'm tired of her calling the cops on me just because she's angry at me (and, trust me, the cops are sick of it too). She would definitely see this as an attempt to get back at her, and I don't want that. No, there is no other relative I can talk about this to. My brother lives far away and we aren't close, plus she doesn't like him either...lol. My Dad is 82 and I don't want to worry him. There are no other family members. I'm sure having some bad days lately...lol. Thanks for reading this.