I don't know where to start. So I guess I will start with Thursday evening... difficult child had showered and was blowdrying her hair. She couldn't hear me over the noise, so I opened the door to talk to her and there was a kitty in the bathroom! Earlier in the week, she had asked to take care of a friends kitty while she found a home for it and I said no. (We have two indoor cats, and the last time they brought home a stray, we had to treat all of them for fleas after the fiasco) Then she said she was just holding it for the evening and a friend was going to pick it up. She didn't have the friends phone number or address... and she didn't give her phone number or address to the friend. Duh... (which was just part of the lies she concocts!) So we got the cat carrier and let it stay in her room overnight. I took it to school the next day which got out early and she did give it to someone.
Well, on Friday, she wanted to spend the night with a friend. I said no because of the lies the night before. She didn't over react too much but was mad because little sis got to spend the night with a friend. Of course she told her friends that we don't let her do anything but let little sis do what ever she wants. No mention that she was the one who lied.
So while she was out Saturday, I noticed her room was really stinky... so I started hunting for cat messes. Turns out she had put poop in a plastic bag. From the amount of poop I knew it was more than one day! Then I thought she might be hiding cigarrettes in her room, so I snooped some. I found my Target debit card in her wallet! I called the 800# and no purchases had been made. I think she would have had to know the passcode to buy something...
But in her school back pack I found a knife that had a razor for a blade! If she was caught with that she would have been expelled from school! An ex bff has been giving her grief and threatening to fight her.
After trying to talk to her about the lies about the kitty, (now she is admitting to two nights of having the kitty in her room) my debit card (which she says she found in her room a year ago but I know I used in April and was in my wallet) and finding the razor knife (which she conveniently says its been in their a month and she just forgot about it - it's a friends). Then she has a screaming melt down and called me "MOM!" in the most disgusting way she could say it (I am adoptive mom, but she calls me grandma) I got really mad and called her "Danielle" her biomoms name. Because when she starts getting caught in her lies... she becomes defensive and puts the problem all on me to try to make me feel bad.
I am just so tired of this drama. Don't know what to do... and biomom keeps calling and telling the girls she is moving back here to be "close to them" when she has been gone almost 3 years and has basically ignored them. biomom is my xdil. She sounds so convincing on the phone... just like difficult child when she tries to spin a good story about all the cr&p going on. We have been seeing a therapist, but if I bring up what has gone on, difficult child will start with "she never lets anything stay in the past... that is over and done with and I apologized" But when she keeps making the same stupid mistakes... it is not in the past... it is just one incident in a line of many that I have to deal with on a daily basis.
Some days I just want to throw in the towel... especially when a kitty has peed and pooped on it. Mary
Well, on Friday, she wanted to spend the night with a friend. I said no because of the lies the night before. She didn't over react too much but was mad because little sis got to spend the night with a friend. Of course she told her friends that we don't let her do anything but let little sis do what ever she wants. No mention that she was the one who lied.
So while she was out Saturday, I noticed her room was really stinky... so I started hunting for cat messes. Turns out she had put poop in a plastic bag. From the amount of poop I knew it was more than one day! Then I thought she might be hiding cigarrettes in her room, so I snooped some. I found my Target debit card in her wallet! I called the 800# and no purchases had been made. I think she would have had to know the passcode to buy something...
But in her school back pack I found a knife that had a razor for a blade! If she was caught with that she would have been expelled from school! An ex bff has been giving her grief and threatening to fight her.
After trying to talk to her about the lies about the kitty, (now she is admitting to two nights of having the kitty in her room) my debit card (which she says she found in her room a year ago but I know I used in April and was in my wallet) and finding the razor knife (which she conveniently says its been in their a month and she just forgot about it - it's a friends). Then she has a screaming melt down and called me "MOM!" in the most disgusting way she could say it (I am adoptive mom, but she calls me grandma) I got really mad and called her "Danielle" her biomoms name. Because when she starts getting caught in her lies... she becomes defensive and puts the problem all on me to try to make me feel bad.
I am just so tired of this drama. Don't know what to do... and biomom keeps calling and telling the girls she is moving back here to be "close to them" when she has been gone almost 3 years and has basically ignored them. biomom is my xdil. She sounds so convincing on the phone... just like difficult child when she tries to spin a good story about all the cr&p going on. We have been seeing a therapist, but if I bring up what has gone on, difficult child will start with "she never lets anything stay in the past... that is over and done with and I apologized" But when she keeps making the same stupid mistakes... it is not in the past... it is just one incident in a line of many that I have to deal with on a daily basis.
Some days I just want to throw in the towel... especially when a kitty has peed and pooped on it. Mary