So R has been doing ok the last week or so. Good mood for the most part. Happy because he has a new "girlfriend". He hasnt really been told no much but we havent had a reason to..anyway...School called today..He is suspended for today & tomorrow and can go back Monday. He and 2 other boys snuck back into the school at lunch time and went into the bathroom. They were caught and searched and R had a lighter and chewing tobacco in his backpack...HE DOESNT CHEW... This is know cuz i would have noticed his teeth..anyway he said its his friends and he was holding it for him. Well I am good friend with- his mom and i let her know..but the problem is R is suspended now AND got a citation for tobacco on a minor.... husband is mad.. im mad... we are stressed to the brink....... anyway, i just needed to vent.... thank you!