My son just turned 20yrs old, His father and I raised him and his sister with love, respect and independence. His whole life he was the jokester of the family, always trying to make people laugh, even when he was being more of a aggravator than anything. He is such a bright and big hearted guy. I recently found out he has been smoking weed, a lot of it. When I confronted him about it he told me he used it for his back pain (he had a serious back surgery at age 19) which now he has titanium rods screwed into his spine due to scoliosis. I am the open minded parent and working in the medical field I have seen my share of Opioid dependent drug addicts. I told him I was not fond of the use of marijuana but I would rather him not be on Opioids, but I was not aware of his large usage of it due to the fact he did not live at home, he had his own apartment(which I helped him to pay for). Long story shorter- we just moved him back home over the weekend because he has lost his job, no thanks to the ex-girlfriend. anyway we have discussed the future with him, pushing him a little harder to go to college, get a trade figure out what you want to do with your life, but it seems to fall on deaf ears. He says he is ready to do something with his life but 24 hrs later he just goes with the flow, back to the 1 main friend he has had since age 6, which by the way has no responsibilities because he lives off his parents and grandparents, he does not seem to want to grow up either. together they just seem to want to smoke weed and hang out. as much as it is going to kill me I feel I have no choice but to cut my son off, his car is in my name and he has no job to pay his insurance, so I am stuck paying his bills. I think he needs a therapist to talk to. I just don't know how to direct him to a happier, healthier future. I am so stressed..