I could not sleep last night. Up since 2 A.M. from the frustration from 35 year old troubled daughter. My husband is home. I asked him to have a meeting with me and daughter. For some reason my words go in one ear and out the other. Huband is not feeling so well but tells me he will have the meeting. Daughter comes over, late again, a habit that drives me crazy. I tell her 'there is not five 10 o'clocks there is one ten o'clock. My daughter was always on time and on the early side until she got with her 1/2 ass boyfriend. 1/2 ass boyfriend and her were suppose to go to a couples retreat, she was dressed and ready, he said he was 5 minutes from the house and came 2 1/2 hours later. Daughter was upset but that is normal for him. We had the meeting with husband. He did not leave one stone unturned. He was straight forward, blunt and to the point. He layed out a plan for her and told her what she will be doing. He also said that the house is our property and her 1/2 ass boyfriend is not welcome and if he comes over it is tresspassing and we will call the cops. He made her give passwords and codes to her bills to make sure we know if she is paying them. He said if you do not have car insurance right now I am keeping the car and taking you home. We got the pass words to just the bills with our name on them. The rest I will not worry about. I gave her the address to the storage place that I will be putting her things in if she does not get with the program and if we see 1/2 ass boyfriend over there. Of course she cried her eyes out but did not argue back or be belligerent. She just said she was working on it. I know she listens to her dad twice as much as me. I am DONE with this latest crazy drama. I told her I will never get use to her awful behavior. Recoveringenabler posted a brilliant post that I used with her and read it twice to her 'We have become accustomed to bizarre,destructive, non sensical, lying, manlputative behaviors, by allowing it we take it in and send the message that it is ok. It is NOT ok, we will not allow it. I think she got it.. Hopefully. I added up her latest set of late fees $150 worth. THAT IS CRAZY. One of my friends has late fees all the time. I could not live like that. It would be too stressful. At least the deep agony has lessened. I know this is not the end but getting so close to removing my name with hers and with it will go a lot of stress.