Wow, lots of info. Like I said I have lots of catching up to do in regards to school policy, laws, etc... Okay, I am in the U.S. in Texas. I retired from the Airlines and now live in a small rural town pop. 2247. You have to drive an hour to get to a Wal-mart! I was so anxious this morning but everything went really well. My number one goal was to get through the day without an "episode". I did have him alone to myself except for 1-15 min break (which is when I first saw the principal for the day) in the morning and a 30 min lunch. I picked him up in the cafeteria this morning and we went straight to our room, closed and locked the door. He warmed up to me right away. He brought a small football with him. He asked if I wanted to play, so we played football. After awhile I suggested play, drink of water, work. He agreed and we shook on it and it worked for the rest of the day. The principal brought his lunch in and he ate in the room while I went to lunch. When I came back they were talking about rewards. She told me that he would be allowed some time in the gym (just he and I) if he continued to behave. She came back later and escorted us to the gym. He played basketball for about 15 minutes and then she walked back with us. That's when it got weird. She sat down while (I'll call him J.) J. layed on the floor between us. He had a soda that he had had in his backpack. She told him not to take a drink without asking me for permission. He tossed it around a little, while we talked. Then he TOOK A DRINK, she grabbed it, he grabbed it back, THEY ran around the room a little, she ended up with orange soda all down the front of her. About that time the sec. comes on the intercom to say his aunt was there to pick him up (he got kicked off the bus Friday). After he left she says "see what I mean". I mentioned **picking battles**. Oh, and she took away his gym time for the following day!! She did say that the intention was for him to return to the classroom BUT she couldn't return him to the classroom as long as he was a danger to the other children. She did say she thought he had ODD or CD. She also said he had a Dr.'s appointment. on WED. That his Mom had agreed to that. Then she told me I needed to do a schedule for doing math at this time and reading at that time, etc... I know I know nothing, but it just seems to me that being too rigid and not being flexible would be a problem. She also noticed the ball in his backpack and said he was not supposed to have either in the room with him. I went and bought a nerf football on my way home. I would just like to have some time to establish a relationship with him and gain his trust before I am given too many rules to abide by (does that make me ODD!??) I think all of those who have been handling him have PTS. And I have to admit I kept waiting for the other shoe to fall all day. I know that I DON'T know what they have gone through with him but I feel like they are trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.